How does she do it? The woman in your office who looks sexy every single day.
The key to being sexy is being confident about who you are. But if your self-esteem is a little shaky and your confidence has been rattled by a nasty break-up, you're probably not feeling your sexy best…and you're not sure you'll ever feel that way again.
There are a few things you can do to look more confident, and eventually feel more confident until you start to feel that you're getting your sexy back.
1. Discover your style.
Take the time to go through your closet and pick out the clothes that make you feel good when you're wearing them. Pitch the clothes that make you feel fat or look dumpy. Spend some quality time in front of the mirror and be honest with yourself. When you're out shopping remember that men are attracted to women who wear red, and black will make you feel skinny…and maybe a little bit sexier.
2. Ditch the negative talk.
Don't like your big butt? Stop telling people you hate it and embrace it. It's part of who you are! And stop playing "if only" mind games with yourself when you're sippin' solo lattes. Twenty pounds won't change if you're hot or not. Love who you are right now!
3. Get up and dance.
Turn up the tunes and dance by yourself in your living room. Play all of your favorite songs and let yourself go. No one is judging you. As you move you'll find yourself feeling more confident in your own skin. Don't like to dance -- then go for a run, or a walk in a park. Getting out and about can completely change your mood.
4. Do what you love to do.
Maybe you have a job that pays the bills, but doesn't satisfy your artistic side. Then you should take a painting class in your free time. Invest in an activity that makes you feel whole and awesome inside and out. If you don't know what makes you feel that way, then spend some time finding out what your passion is -- and then embrace it 100%.
5. No more wallpaper.
When you're in a social situation with bad hair or clothes that make you feel fat, do you get quiet and stand in a corner until you can make your great escape? You're not alone. Recognize your fear and embrace it. Do just the opposite -- pretend you've got all the confidence in the world and start talking and asking questions of the handsome strangers in the room.
6. Make eye contact.
Lower your head and look up and directly into his eyes when you're talking to him. Smile and relax. He's actually interested in what you have to say. And when you nail him with your direct gaze, he'll find you simply irresistible.
7. Flirt like you do it for a living.
Say the first thing that comes out of your mouth! Tell yourself that it's all just for practice. Stop being so serious and enjoy it. Laugh! Say what you feel. Be confident that people want to hear what you have to say. It's okay to be a little sassy and provocative. We like you that way!