Tuesday, October 28, 2014

10 Tricks For Building Intimacy

These tricks are a treat for you both.  Pick one or two and cast a romantic spell on your partner this weekend. 

1. Ask about their day.  Be sure to listen to the answers.  Don’t try to fix anything. Just listen.

2. Give a foot rub while you are sitting on the couch together—Inttimo by Wet™ Aromatherapy Massage & Bath Oil Invigorate™ with refreshing eucalyptus & citrus works wonders on tired feet.

3. Leave notes for your partner that shows them you are thinking of them.  Short and sweet or descriptive and sexy.

4. Public displays of affection can be hot and showing the world you are together will make your lover feel special.  Just be sure it’s within the comfort range of your partner and be respectful those around you.

5. Leave a bottle of Wet® Flavored™ Kiwi Strawberry™ lubricant where your lover can find it and when they ask about it, you tell them you’d like your treat now!

6. Body-on-Body Massage...Have you tried Nuru massage? Nuru is a sensual Japanese technique where both partners are completely nude and use full body contact to perform the massage with a thick, ultra-slippery, sexy gel like Wet® Nuru Massage Gel. Learn How to Nuru on Wet’s YouTube Channel.

7. Shower together.  Take time to clean every inch of your partner’s body and let them do the same for you.  Wet® Platinum® Premium Lubricant is perfect when getting wet together because it doesn’t break down in water…just remember to use caution as Wet Platinum is extremely slippery.

8. Go shopping together.  Surprise them and swing by your local adult specialty boutique. Pick out a new toy and a bottle of Wet® Ecstasy® Xtra Cooling Lubricant™. When you dab a few drops over your partner’s erogenous zones then gently blow on those areas, you’ll send gentle shivers of anticipation up your lover’s spine.

9. Tell them you love how they kiss.  This is a definite turn on for many.

10. Wake up your partner’s sexual appetite by cooking together.  Standing close together and feeding each other as you do can be very erotic.  You can also go straight to dessert with Wet® Fun Flavors® Warming, Flavored, Massage, and Lubricant all-in-one!

How to Scare Him Off in 10 Spooktacular Steps

We know it’s Halloween but doing these things will potentially scare that love interest away faster than you can say Trick-or-Treat.

1. Saying “I love you” too soon.  It takes time to get to know someone and really value them.  You might feel like you’re in love but that might be lust talking.  Wait until you know for sure.

2. Asking to meet their parents or children.  It’s usually best to let someone choose when this is appropriate. People are naturally protective of their inner circle.  Don’t force the issue in a new relationship.

3. Arguing against the things they are passionate about like political views or being vegan.  If you don’t agree on some fundamental things, it’s time to decide if it’s going to be a big turn off down the road or if it’s something you can learn to live with.

4. Constantly talking about your ex (either positively or negatively).  Nobody wants to feel like they are being compared to someone else.

5. Only talking about yourself. Most people want to know that you are interested in what is going on with them.  Take time to find out each time you are together.

6. Insisting on moving in together or leaving bridal magazines all over the house.  Let the relationship happen naturally. Things will fall into place if it is meant to be.

7. Going shopping or out to eat and expecting the other person to pay for everything, every time…If this is something that is important for you, it needs to be agreed upon in the very beginning of the relationship.

8. Texting or sexting your lover non-stop. How can they miss you if you won’t go away?

9. Talk about having kids and how many. This one is tricky. It is definitely important to talk about kids if you are set on having a certain number within a certain time frame. You need to determine if a potential mate has goals similar to yours. Just try to find a way to do it that doesn’t make it sound like you need to have them right now!

10. Judging their friends or family when you haven’t met them yet. Don’t let gossip or things you see on Facebook determine your opinion of someone you don’t know. If a person is important to your new love, they are probably going to be important to you going forward. Give them the benefit of the doubt in the beginning. Oh, and don't change your Facebook status too early either. Awkward.

Friday, October 17, 2014

Dr. Mary Jane Minkin Discusses Relief for Personal Dryness Due to Menopause

Health Watch - Wet Platinum on Fox DC 

Watch Doctor Mary Jane Minkin, a professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the Yale University School of Medicine, discuss issues associated with menopause - including bone health and whether women benefit from hormone therapy. Look! There is a bottle of Wet Platinum there on the table beside her where she recommends the use of products for relief of painful, dry sex.

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Thursday, October 9, 2014

SEX EDUCATION 101: 6 Things You Weren’t Taught in School...

What you weren’t taught in school…updated information to keep your love life safe and happy.

Summer has come and gone and students are back in school. Most likely it’s been awhile since you had a Sex Ed course and times have changed. Let’s face it—your information is old school!

New York psychiatrist and sex therapist Madeleine Castellanos, MD, offers updated, “new school” information that everyone should know to stay in the safe sex zone: 

According to the CDC, nearly half of the 19 million new STDs contracted each year are among young people aged 15–24 years (2011).

Oral sex is not considered ‘safe sex.’ HIV, HPV, herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis may all be transmitted via oral sex.  In addition, a 2011 study found that the proportion of oropharyngeal cancers related to HPV increased from 16.3% to 71.7% between 1984 and 2004.

Make oral sex safer by using a flavored condom like DKT’s Prudence brand condoms, which offer a wide variety of flavors and scents (banana, watermelon, strawberry, grape, chocolate and more) guaranteed to tickle your taste buds as well as your partner’s fancy!  

More than $8 billion is spent each year to diagnose and treat STIs and their complications, not including HIV (Guttmacher Institute). STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) are definitely out there.  Protect yourself from getting them and/or spreading them.

Oil and latex do not mix—so using petroleum jelly, baby oil, moisturizers or everyday kitchen oils with a condom can cause the latex to break down and increases your chance of breakage and infection. Wet® Platinum® Premium Silicone Lubricant and Wet® Light® Liquid Lubricant are both latex-friendly. When used correctly, Wet lube also helps to reduce excess friction, thus lessening the risk of tears.

That funky smell down there may have nothing to do with hygiene!  A number of everyday triggers, including menstruation, pregnancy, intercourse or medications, can upset the delicate vaginal ecosystem and elevate pH, causing an odor, increase or change in discharge, or a bacterial infection. Fragrance sprays, wipes and pads just mask the problem. RepHresh Gel keeps the pH balanced--an important tool in decreasing chances of bacterial vaginosis, and eliminating that “fishy” odor by treating the root cause.

Wet hopes these tips from sex therapist, MD and psychotherapist, Dr. Madeleine Castellanos will keep your love life safe and intimate this school year.

Thursday, September 4, 2014

Did You Miss National Big "O" Day? Tips from The MD.

Did you miss national orgasm day?

National Orgasm Day, July 31, 2014, has come and gone but we’re still celebrating and we want you to come with us!  Joking aside, many, if not most of us, have too few orgasms. And it’s high time to fix that!

Did You Miss National Big "O" Day? Tips from The M.D.

Here are some great tips for putting the big “O” back on top as a national priority and enjoying bodacious orgasms on a regular basis. These points come from “The Sex M.D.,” Dr. Madeleine Castellanos, who is a respected author and sex therapist in New York. She says, “Our sexual functioning cannot be separated from our overall health and happiness.” In other words, good orgasms = good health! 

Dr. C’s tips:

1) Getting to orgasm is easiest when you are relaxed and focused on what’s erotic for you.

2) Learning how to time your breathing can help you reach orgasm more easily.

3) Orgasms cause the release of increased DHEA which is what makes your skin glow and look younger.

4) Using Wet Platinum Premium Silicone Lubricant, accepted as a 510(k) medical device, makes great sex viable and long-lasting even in the shower.  Caution: Very slippery!

5) Orgasms come in all sizes and intensities, so take the time to explore all the variations.

6) Even though orgasms are fantastic, the less you focus on them as a goal in sex, the more likely you are to heighten your arousal and actually reach orgasm.

7) Orgasms help a woman’s brain relax more profoundly than any other activity, even meditation.

8)  If you aren’t getting regular orgasms from sexual activity, take matters into your own hands and masturbate so you can orgasm at least 3 times per week.

9) Using an intimate health and stimulation device strengthens the pelvic floor muscles, which are key to achieving healthy orgasms and also preventing incontinence.

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Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Wet Brings Mo Beasley's LoveStorm to Los Angeles

When we first had the pleasure of seeing Mo Beasley's brand of steamy spoken word, feast for your greatest sex organ, the brain, The LoveStorm, we decided Wet Lubricants had bring it to the mainstage of the Jon Lovitz Comedy Club in Los Angeles, because the talent was off the charts, sexy entertainment.

Join us on Thursday, September 11th at 8PM at the Jon Lovitz Comedy Club to support Mo Beasley's LoveStorm: The Comedy of Eros for a night of fresh, sexy fun where anything can happen. The performance will showcase the funny side of the bed by exploring the inherent hilarity of love, sex, and relationships in the new millennium. The show features comedic genius of Regie Cabico, who has twice appeared on HBO’s Def Poetry Jam, Gordon James, SLAM and Mo Beasley himself with the soulful music sounds of Los Angeles native Maritri and more! Tickets are $15! Get yours today! http://bit.ly/ComedyOfEros

A show not to be missed, plus there may be a few surprises from Wet!

Mo Beasley
Mo Beasley This Boston born/Brooklyn, NY based Performance Artist, Author, and Educator, who, when not at the mic, teaches poetry/spoken word and theatre, and sexuality education courses/workshops to youth and adults throughout New York City and across the United States. The book version of his play, released by Scripted Linguistics (2004), is Beasley’s first published work. His second is “Be a Father to Your Child” (2008), a groundbreaking anthology on fatherhood and hip-hop. Mo has been featured on The Hallmark Channel, GRITtv, FOX 5 TV, XM Satellite Radio, WBAI/Pacifica Radio, KISS FM (NYC), Air America and more. In 2006, The New York Daily News selected Mo as one of "50 Unsung New York Heroes."

His client list has included Brooklyn Academy of Music (BAM), Kennedy Center, Duke Ellington School for the Arts, African Voices,Magazine, Children’s Aid Society, New Jersey Performing Arts Center, Penn State University and more.

Regie Cabico
Regie Cabico is the first openly gay and Asian poet to take top prizes in the 1993, 1994 & 1997 National Poetry Slam. He co-hosts La Ti Do: A Weekly Cabaret And Spoken Word Series and has appeared on 2 seasons of HBO’s Def Poetry Jam and NPR’s Snap Judgement. His latest solo play is "Godiva Dates & A One Night Stand" premiered at the 2013 Capital Fringe Festival. His plays have been produced at The Humana Theater Festival, Joe’s Pub (Public Theater), New York Live Arts, Contact Theater. He has shared the stage with Patti Smith, Allen Ginsberg and through Howard Zinn’s Portraits Project at NYU, has performed with Stanley Tucci, Jesse Eisenberg & Lupe Fiasco.

Gordon James
Gordon James was born in Kingston, Jamaica and has lived in Canada, Kenya, and the United States. He is a graduate of Dartmouth College, where he was an active member of The Black Underground Theatre Association. He received his M. F. A. in Acting from Brooklyn College and has performed leading roles in such productions as The Colored Museum, Six Degrees of Separation, The Island, and Tartuffe among others. His one man show Outbursts (www.outbursts.net) opened to critical acclaim in 2000. The show successfully returned to New York in 2004 for a two week run at the Gotham City Improv Theater, after which Mr. James took a two-year hiatus from performing to finish writing his second book of poetry, Baggage.  In 2007, Mr. James relocated to Los Angeles where he reprised Outbursts for west-coast audiences garnering impressive reviews from LA Weekly magazine and LACityZine who called it an “Exhilarating, funny, moving and expertly written--a must-see performance. ”

Mr. James currently resides in Hollywood and has a recurring on-screen role on Grey's Anatomy. He has also made appearances on ABC's Private Practice and in the movie Our Family Wedding. He also does voice-over work for the TV hit Scandal.

In 2002, Maritri made her classical piano debut at Steinway Hall in New York. She was subsequently commissioned, along with cellist Shana Tucker to compose music for two ballets at the Washington Ballet under the direction of Mary Day at the Kennedy Center and at the Witts Theatre in Johannesburg, South Africa. Maritri has opened for Gladys Knight, The Five Blind Boys of Alabama, Stanley Jordan, Toshi Reagon, Hiram Bullock, Muzz Skillings, Vinx and the Indigo Girls with her band Hue; appeared on BET on Jazz as a musician and host. Maritri was a backup singer for Barbara Streisand and Michael Amante. And trained Mary J. Blige to Play Nina Simone With acting coach, Susan Batson. She is founding member of the band Hue and the Soulfolk Experience.

Maritri was recently a featured performer on NPR in D.C. with the author Susan Minot. Performed at the 2014 NAACP Image Awards and has released several albums available on iTunes and Amazon. Her albums are The Soulfolk volume 1 and If Only I Could Breathe with Nick Cassarino. Currently she is working on the latest album due out by the end of the year.

SLAM, is a Spoken Word Artist whose emotional delivery and thought provoking style have been gracing audiences since she first put pen to paper. A regular at Mo Beasley’s LoveStorm, she has produced and performed in “The Mystique of Fly” and “Dangerous Women”, both spoken word performance events held throughout New York. In 2008 she published her first book of poetry ‘So Black It’s Blue, So Red It’s Sky’. A regular in the NY scene she has been lighting up stages in Washington DC since her move in 2009. She has been a featured artist at Indulj, Lace, Pure Lounge, Urban Eats &, Station 9 Jefferson Bites, Spill! And is often featured at La Ti Do curated by Regie Cabico.  You can find SLAM on Facebook and she likes Pina Colada’s and getting lost in the rain.

There were too many folks to mention here. Come and see them all for yourself! You are guaranteed to come away wet...from tears of joy and laughter, of course.

See you all at the Jon Lovitz Comedy Club for a very fun, sexy, experience on September 11th. http://bit.ly/ComedyOfEros

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

The Day My Granny Panties Tried To Kill Me

I finally bought new bedroom furniture and as I was cleaning out my old chest of drawers, my underwear was splayed out on the bed, exposed for all to see.  I had no idea my husband had asked my 20-something year old nephew to come by and help us move the furniture.  To make matters worse, my 18 year-old daughter declares in front of everyone, “Mom, your underwear is so old! We need to go to a decent boutique and buy you some new ones.”  I’ll admit defeat.  It was time to step into this century.  To say I was a bit embarrassed would be an understatement but what happened next took me from pink-faced mom to eggplant purple with a side of “let me die right here”.

The adventure to the lingerie store started out fine enough.  My daughter decides she’s going to educate me on the styles that she and her contemporaries wear. Because you know, all teens think their parents live in a shell and have never heard of a thong, unless it’s worn on your feet.  Sure, I know what a thong is.  I personally prefer not to wear this type of butt-floss because I find them insanely uncomfortable.  Aside from those, my imagination was limited to the full brief (hi Granny) or basic bikini underwear usually found at any large major discount retailer.  Don’t ask me why, but I have always hated the word “panties”…it’s like the word “moist”. It just seems like a term that creeps out of a dark corner.  My mom called them underpants so I went ultra-modern and called them undies at our house.

Meanwhile, back at the lingerie shop, as the sales clerk approaches us, my daughter says, “My mom’s undies are so outdated.  It’s like she still has underwear from when I was born.” Ok, like I said, she’s 18, so possibly a bit of an over-exaggeration, but probably not that far off to be honest. The salesperson, let’s call her Jess, chuckles at this but, gratefully, acts unfazed.  She breaks her code of silence by asking me four little words that bring most women to their knees.  “What is your size?” Uhhhh…crickets here…uhhhh…size? “I have no idea. What sizes do they come in? Are they like S-M-L or are they in numbered sizes like 6-7-8-etc?”

“We carry both types of sizes” Jess says, “to make it easier.” Hmm, right, easier.  I must still look dazed and confused, standing there biting my lip, trying to figure out what my size is.  My sweet daughter, in her infinite wisdom, tries to help and explains: “Yeah, I doubt my mom is wearing the right size anyway and the size is probably so faded from too many trips through the washer and dryer, it’s not like we can just look at the tag to check.”  (Insert visible eye-roll by daughter and possible twinge by Jess here.)  “Hmmm, not wearing the right size” she says. Vertigo sets in.  What does she mean by this statement? Is Mom wearing undies that are swimmingly too big or are they too small, since, yes, I may have gained a few pounds since buying my last pair of (dramatic pause) panties… there I said it! Either way, I am not enjoying where this conversation is going, either is the salesclerk.    We get the size figured out, basically I am a size 6 or 7 depending on the style.  Success!

She then asks me what I usually wear and leads me over to a display of different styles.  Great, another decision.  Style choice.  It’s not getting any easier folks. Although I don’t wear large granny panties (Ooh, I said panties again! I am getting better at this), I do like my butt completely covered. Maybe it’s because I grew up in cold weather and the idea of having my butt cheeks hanging out makes me shiver. “Maybe it’s time for something new?” she goads.  I’m sure she meant style-wise, but all of this decision making was raising a hackle or two. “Yeah, that’s why I’m here, wasn’t looking to buy old underwear.” Hey, I thought it was funny.  Jess didn’t.  She’s starting to lose her patience with me, but thankfully she continues because it is painfully clear that I still need help.  The mannequins displayed in front of us are loaded with choices: Bikinis, V-kinis, Boy-Shorts, Hipsters, and Thongs in a variety of cuts like T-back, V-string, and G-string (in case you forgot, no way).  And all of those come in rise options like Low Rise, Petite Low Rise, (yeah, not on my end), Original Rise, Midrise, and Retro, which is a polite way of saying “Your Nana Never Saw Her Naval” rise.

As my head begins spinning like plates balancing precariously on a pole, I realize I am going to have to try something on to be sure.  The boy-shorts felt just like thongs to me, invading their way into the crack of my butt with ungodly force. The hipsters felt like they were not on all the way and I would want to keep tugging at them to pull them up, like a strapless evening gown beaten down by the inevitable gravity of the situation. Hipsters were out too.  I didn’t like the feeling of them clinging desperately to my thighs.  Disheartened, I slipped on a bikini style and discovered it is still one of my favorites.  Relegating myself to the same-old, same-old, I went for one last pair, the v-kini.  For those unfamiliar, it’s like a v-neck t-shirt only in bikini style.  I like the v-kini style because it rides higher on the hip but still has some style to it making me suddenly, triumphantly feel like this excursion had not been for naught.

Then, Jess drops the next question.  Sigh. More choices. “Do you prefer cotton, silk, lace, seamless or barely there panty so you can wear it under tight clothes?” Of course, the paranoia sets in. Is Jess inferring that my panty-line is showing?  Grappling with my mind to formulate an answer, in one breath, I squeeze out an incredibly pointed set of questions that is sure to bring Jess to just the right pair for me.  “Is there something with like a cotton-crotch area that is still pretty, some lace maybe or a waistband that has leopard print that would not have too many seams,  or at least a little sexier? But I don’t want silk, they just feel too slippery to me, like my butt is swimming in a pool.” My daughter glares at me with that ’Mommm’ you’re embarrassing me kind of look….HEY KID, I am still a woman too you know! “You started it” is all I have to say to her.

Finally, I end up with a set of cotton v-kinis, one in every color with a bit of lace trim.  I am sure Jess was relieved I had finally made a decision and a sizable purchase.  Although this trip was a bit rough at the beginning, I didn’t die after all. And if I had died of embarrassment, at least I would have been buried in my new, fresh, clean, sexy, fun panties!

Lori S. Choi, Blogger for Wet Personal Lubricants 
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 Lori S. Choi, Blogger for Wet Personal Lubricants 

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