It's a question you ask yourself occasionally. Mostly because you've heard other people describe their lovers that way.
"He's sooooo good in bed," one of your friends says over drinks one night. And you nod your head, and act like you understand what she's talking about, but in truth, you don't have a clue. But it made you wonder.
Do people think you're good in bed? And what exactly makes someone good in bed? We've got a few ideas that might put your mind at ease when it comes to measuring how good or not so good you think you might be in the sack.
1. Don't be shy.
A person who owns their own sexuality is always hot. Being active and intrigued by the act of sex is also a big turn-on.
2. Be confident.
You know the old adage -- "Fake it until you make it." You know what you're doing and why you want to be in this situation, so now is not the time to act like you don't know what you're doing. Take charge. Assert yourself. Your partner will love it!
3. Stay in the moment.
Life moves pretty fast these days and it's hard not to start planning your next move during your current activity. Unfortunately, your partner will notice if you're making a shopping list in your head while you're having sex. You're cheating yourself and your partner out of a wonderful experience. Slow down and just enjoy the moment.
4. Be vocal.
Tell your partner exactly what you want. Use the dirty words and show your partner with their hands exactly how to touch you to turn you on. If you tell your partner what you want, he or she'll be more likely to be able to please you and you'll both benefit. Plus, if you're vocal about what you want, your partner is more likely to vocalize what he or she wants. And you'll be more likely to able to please them.
5. Be open.
Be willing to try new things. If you get stuck in a rut, then say so. Take actions to do things in different ways. Try new positions. Do it in different locations. Take turns initiating sex. Share your fantasies with each other. It's all a part of creating emotional and physical intimacy.