It’s that time of year. The leaves are back on trees. The grass is turning green. The birds are building their nests and laying eggs. Everything seems to be moving on with life, but what about you and your partner?
Where are you going?
Spring is a great time of year to take a look at your own relationship and do a little sprucing up. No, we’re not talking about getting the dust bunnies out from under the bed, unless you haven’t been doing anything in that bed other than sleeping…than we are talking about that. We’re talking about cleaning up, dusting off and making new your relationship.
Here are a few questions you should ask yourself:
Should I still be in this relationship? Winter is a time to hibernate. You want to hunker down, tuck under the covers and ignore all the problems until the weather gets warmer. Now that it’s spring, you can look around you and decide if your relationship is exactly where you want to be. If it isn’t, you need to make some changes. It’s time to ask some tough questions. Is my relationship fair and balanced? Am I getting all the support I need in return? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you feel like you can relax and be yourself around your partner? Make sure you can live with the honest answers to all of these questions.
When was the last time either one of us exercised? Find an exercise plan you can both agree on – and stick to it! Over the winter you discovered reruns of “Murder, She Wrote.” (Could there be anything more fun (and less sexy?) You’ve been substituting watching television for what was once your time at the gym. Find a time, place and activity you can both agree on – and then get to it. You’ll find out how much you both enjoy your friendship – which can deepen your intimacy.
What are you wearing to bed? Ditch the over-sized man pajamas. Are you still wearing warm tops and bottoms that you bought at Target when the weather turned colder in November? When the daffodils are in bloom, there’s no reason that you need to wear sexless pjs to bed. It’s time to open up your wallet and dust off your credit cards. Go shopping for something that will really curl his toes. A baby doll nightie. Something see-through? Maybe you should even consider a corset this year….anything goes.
When was the last time you washed the sheets? Buy new sheets for the bed. If you have the budget, buy new pillow cases and accent pillows. Light and bright is so much better in the warmer months. It’s time to put the throw that grandma crocheted you for Christmas into the mothballs until fall.
When was the last time we had sex? If you can’t remember, then it’s been too long…and if you can’t remember it.. it wasn’t memorable. It’s time to shake things up in the bedroom. Get back to making the earth move under your feet again. There are so many simple ways you can spice up your sex life. Start with trying something new – like introducing sex toys and flavored lube – and then challenge yourself to something even more daring like role playing games or public sex.
It’s time to stop hibernating. Take charge of your relationship and do a little spring cleaning. It’ll make you feel fresh and sexy.