Want to hear something really depressing?
It takes 20 minutes or less for most singles to decide if they want to see you again after the first date. That's right, you've got less than a half an hour to make someone you find attractive want to go out with you again...or else. Seems like a lot of pressure, doesn't it? Especially since we all know that a good relationship takes time to grow and develop.
"If they just kept talking and talking and talking about nothing interesting, I wouldn’t call them back," says one man.
"Definitely don’t want to meet someone on the first night and find out their family is crazy," another man says.
And study at the University of Texas says that the more attractive a man finds the woman, the more a man thinks she is interested in him, while women, on the other hand, often underestimate men’s desire for them.
In case you haven’t already noticed, dating is hard. So if you’ve made past the first date with someone new and you’re wondering what to do on the second date, we’ve got a few ideas for you.
The traditional “dinner and a movie” sounds like a good plan, but eating in a loud restaurant and watching a movie in a crowded theatre can be difficult places for conversation and intimacy to grow. So here’s a few alternative ideas that will make a second date stress-free and fun for both of you.
1. Take a Cooking Class. Since the popularity of Bravo Network’s Top Chef, everyone wants to be able to cook like Julia Child. Cooking schools for at-home chefs are now available in most cities across the US. You can also find classes at places like Sur La Table and Williams-Sonoma. Taking a class allows you to be creative and communicate together.
2. Take a ride on a Merry-Go-Round or Ferris Wheel. A second date is a great time to get in touch with your inner child at an amusement park or pier. You might even find yourself holding hands on the merry-go-round or stealing your first kiss at the top of the Ferris Wheel.
3. Go on a Wine Tasting. If you don’t live within driving distance of a winery, you can always find out the times of a wine tasting at your local wine bar. Learning about wines could become a passion that you both share if your dates blossom into a relationship.
4. Go to a Street Fair or Renaissance Faire. You may think that you’re not the kind of person that would ever go to the Renaissance Faire, but don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. You can learn new things, try out new crafts and sample foods you’ve never thought you’d ever try – and you’ll be doing it together.
5. Go to a Sporting Event. This isn’t a good idea for a sports fan who will be so focused on the game that they’ll ignore their date. This is a great idea for two people who don’t know a lot about sports and want to discover something new together.
6. Go to a history or art museum. A great idea for a second date will challenge both of you to learn something new. And when you’re standing in front of your favorite painting, you can invade each other’s personal space and maybe steal the first kiss…or too.