Dirty Books To Read After You've Read '50 Shades of Grey'

You finished reading all three books in the 50 Shades Of Grey trilogy over one weekend and now as a long holiday weekend approaches, you're wondering what you should download to your Kindle.

There are many, many authors of erotica who are much better at their craft than E.L. James.You'll certainly find what you're looking for if you do a search on Amazon.com. 

But if you want to become a student of the genre -- you may want to look for a few erotica classics from authors who were writing about dirty sex for a female audience long before Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey were ever born.

Here's a list of five that you might want to try:

The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy

Anne Rice wrote about vampires before it was cool. And she was also writing about sex long before 50 Shades of Grey. Writing under the nom de plume, A. N. Roquelaure,  Rice casts a spell on the traditional tale of Sleeping Beauty. Her re-telling of the Sleeping Beauty story probes the unspoken depths of sexual desire in a lush, suggestive tale. You might also want to explore her other book of erotica, Belinda.

Lady Chatterley's Lover

I had no idea that people in the past had dirty thoughts until I went away to college and was given Lady Chatterley's Lover as a reading assignment in an English class. Someone made mention to it being a little racy when they saw it on top of my pile of class books. I didn't think anything of it until I opened it very late one night in order to read it (or at the least skim it and get a "vague" idea of what it was about for class the next morning) and I discovered that it was filthy. Fabulously filthy! I stayed up all night long reading it. And I'm not sure what I said during the discussion in class the next day, but I know that I was prepared.

Lace

"Which one of you bitches is my mother?" That memorable line was uttered by Phoebe Cates from underneath a dazzling birdcage veil and pillbox hat -- and dozens of teenage girls were hooked. Lace by Shirley Conran was adapted into an 80s TV miniseries that scored incredibly high ratings -- not only for the glamour portrayed on screen but also the lurid tales of sex that were alluded to in the plot. The book leaves little to the imagination. If your insatiable desire for 80s erotica isn't quenched by reading "Lace" you might want to get a copy of Scruples by Judith Krantz. It's what your grandmother read when she was horny.

My Secret Garden

When it was first published in 1973, My Secret Garden created a storm of outrage and exhilaration. Women who read it were astonished to find in its pages the hidden content of their own sexual fantasies. More outspoken, graphic, and taboo-shattering than any book before its time, My Secret Garden quickly became the classic study of female sexuality. This is a classic that shouldn't be missed.

Forever

If you didn't read Judy Blume when you were in junior high school, I don't know how you made it through puberty. She seemed to have an uncanny ability to understand exactly what was on the mind of a young woman who was trying to deal with all of the changes that were happening in her life. First published in 1975, Forever is about a sexual relationship between two teenagers. Because of the novel's content it's the frequent target of censorship, but even if you ignore the sex scenes, you'll find Blume nails what it's like to fall in love "forever" and then find out that love may not always last that long. It's a great read and book that can be emotional for anyone who was ever a heartbroken teenager.

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Should You Answer A Booty Call?

Absolutely. 

As long as you both know that it's a relationship that's based on casual sex and nothing else, answer that late-night text and enjoy yourself.

But what if you've got the feeling that you and he might be good as a couple, both in and out of the sack?

Can a booty call turn into a committed relationship?

Most skeptics (and your mother) are going to say no.

But you know that you have an awesome time between the sheets together, and you're wondering if you might not have a little something going on outside the bedroom as well. You know you have a few things in common, but should you, and well, can you…turn a booty call into a date?

The difference between a booty call and a boyfriend is that the booty call is just sex. In fact, texting has become the standard way booty calls communicate. So if you want to turn your regular booty call into a boyfriend, you have to communicate on a much deeper level.

First of all, stop answering your texts late at night. Call back the next day after work, and If he asks you where you were, tell him the truth -- you were asleep.

Don't give it up. If you can tell that he is only going to see you for late night booty call sex, and you want more, then don't try to get him to stay by having sex. 

Try to find some activities to that you both like to do, like going to a ball game or a band. Make sure they are activities where you aren't alone.

Find some time to talk when you're both fully clothed. Get to know him and let him get to really know you.

Don't beat yourself up if you slip up and get back into bed with him again after a late night text. If the sex is hot -- it'll be hard to resist -- but it is the only clear path to getting what you want.

Make the decision that you'll stop answering his late night texts if he refuses to see you except for late night sex, especially if you know that you have feelings for him that are more than just about casual sex. Do this to protect yourself, so you don't end up with a broken heart.

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5 Things That Turn Women On

You've got a good idea how to touch and caress a woman once she's in your bed, but for you it's getting a woman into your bed that seems to be the big hurdle. 

No one wants to hear about your ex-girlfriend and how she's going to be nominated for sainthood. We also don't want to know that you think she's the real-life version of Cruella De Ville. If you're over 35 and still living at home with your mom, you that's a big red flag for her. And no one wants a boyfriend with bad table manners.

But what really turns a woman on. The answers are surprisingly simple.

Here's just a few that we've come up with:

1. Ask questions about her.

Nothing is a bigger turn on for a woman than a man who listens to her.  Communication can go a long way toward deepening the intimacy you feel between the two of you and there's no better time than the present to start asking questions and find out what she's thinking. Show concern about her family and pets, and express an interest in her hobbies and passions.

2. Be reliable.

If you say you're going to come over to pick her up at a specific time, and you're not there within fifteen minutes of that mark, you better be trapped under something heavy, or make a phone call to explain your absence and provide a more realistic idea of when you will be free to see her.  You don't have to always be available, but when you say you can be available, you should be. Excuses are a big turn off.

3. Send sweet texts.

Don't send a picture of your Johnson to a woman who hasn't met it in person and expect her to want you more. Women are seduced by words, and not pictures. Of course, once you guys are getting hot and heavy, you should send dirty texts and emails as often as possible. That's a turn on!

4. Whisper in her ear.

A woman's ears are one of her erogenous zones. When you're having sex you know that you can make her moan by nibbling and licking on her lobes. Press your lips close to her ear and breathe gently. Be bold and be flirty with your words.

5.  Always smell like you just got out of the shower.

Men and women are attracted to each other by scent, and just because she says she wants a man who "smells like a man" doesn't mean she enjoys the smell of your sweat after a heavy work-out. She's talking about how you smelled on your first date, when you showered and wore cologne.  Make a habit of smelling like you just stepped out of the shower. She'll find you absolutely irresistible.

What "turn on" do you think we should add to our list? Make suggestions in the comments below.

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Should You Take A Stripper Pole Class?

"You will never be sexy, no matter what," my boyfriend said the night he broke up with me. "You’re sweet and kind, but a man wants a woman who’s sexy." What was left of my fragile self-esteem was crushed like a potato chip topping on a tuna noodle casserole.

What is sexy?

I knew what my boyfriend thought was sexy.  He had shamefully admitted late one night to his undying passion for a Japanese anime character with pink neon hair and breasts the size of Volkswagens. When she took off her glasses, she went from brainy astrophysicist to love-starved sex kitten.

I had been raised to be hard-working and kind to animals. No one had every said anything about being sexy.  I couldn’t take off my glasses and be sexy. I couldn’t see without my glasses, and I wouldn’t know sexy if it ran me over with a truck. 

A few weeks later, I stopped into my favorite coffee shop, I saw an advertisement on the bulletin board for stripper and pole dance lessons. I took a step back. There was no way. I didn't have a perfect body. I was innately clumsy. My sweaty thighs would probably stick to the pole and create a squeak so loud that herds of wild buffalo grazing on the plains of Wyoming would start to stampede. There was absolutely no way I would ever sign up for a pole dance class. 

I went any way, and I made the girl behind the counter promise me that whatever happened she wouldn’t call my mother as I filled out the emergency contact information. The women in the class came in all shapes and sizes and the instructor was bright-eyed and bouncy. 

Pole dancing takes a lot of upper arm strength, and the first time I tried it, I just sort of hung there like a big fat freshly-caught tuna.  I was headed out the door when the instructor caught up with me.  She didn’t seem to accept my failure as easily as I had.

"I can’t do this," I told her. "My ex-boyfriend, told me I wasn’t sexy. "

"Then you better thank your lucky stars that you got rid of that dead wood," she said, "because six weeks from now, when you’ve got it all going on, you’ll need to have someone in your life who’s worthy of the tease."

My ex-boyfriend made it sound like being sexy was like being pregnant; either you are, or you aren’t.  It took me a long time before I realized that “sexy” is a subjective term.

Still not sure?

Here are three great reasons why you should try a stripper pole class just once in your life:

• It's a killer work out.

• It's a great dance class.

• And it can go a long way toward making you feel like you've got it all going on.

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25 Cheap Summer Dates

It's summertime and the living is easy…or so the song goes. The weather may be warmer and the days may be longer, but your wallet doesn't seem to have gotten any bigger.

No worries.

We've got some great ideas for 25 dates you can go on this summer that won't leave you short on cash.

1. Go to an outdoor movie.

2. Go on a walk in a park at dusk.

3. Go on an art gallery crawl that ends at a coffeehouse.

4. Go to a bookstore followed by a wine bar.

5. Go slow dancing in the moonlight in your own back yard.

6. Try out a new recipe at home.

7. Go to the library followed by the ice cream parlor.

8. Go to the ice cream store. (It's really a treat all by itself.)

9. Stay in one night and have dinner in bed.

10. Get up early and go the farmer's market followed by breakfast.

11. Drink wine and read poetry. The more wine you drink, the better the poetry gets.

12. Go to a bar for "mocktails." 

13. Go to the mall, not to shop, but to people watch.

14. Take a scenic drive through a wooded area or down a country road.

15. Check with your local museums to find out when admission is free.

16. Take a walk on the beach at sunset. Picnic optional.

17. Go to a pick-your-own farm and get your own fresh veggies followed by a fabulous feast.

18. Go stargarzing on a mountaintop or at your local planetarium.

19. Enjoy a game of naked Twister.

20. Hit the video arcade with a roll of quarters.

21. Find a fountain and take turns throwing pennies and making wishes.    

          

22. Buy one expensive dessert at a fancy schmancy bakery and share it.

23. Find your local go-kart track and go racing.

24. Go to see Shakespeare in the park -- or whatever is playing at your local outdoor theatre.

25. Have sex.

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