You're young (you don't have to be), single and independent.
You're not interested in a relationship right now, but there is someone that
you've just met who intrigues you enough to consider having a one night stand. Maybe
you're at a business conference, traveling through Europe or at a party where
you don't know many people. You've set off the sexual sparks with someone else
and you know the relationship can't be sustained, but should you do it? Can you
really have a "it's just sex" one night fling with someone you just
met? If you're thinking of having very casual sex, here are a few things to
consider.
Be Prepared
Make sure that you have everything in your purse that you
might need for a sexy, fun evening. Your phone, your keys, a hair tie and a
change of panties might be good ideas to carry with you. But the most important
thing on your list of must-have is CONDOMS.
Under no circumstances should you have casual sex without a condom. And
don't believe your friends when they tell you it makes you look trailer park to
carry condoms in your purse. It's trailer park not to carry condoms in your
purse if you're considering an evening of casual sex.
Have Back Up
Make sure that before you go off to a private location with
someone you only know casually that they are also down with having a one night
stand. Make that clear! Then before you disappear with your chosen one to a private location, make sure you get a
second opinion about your one night stand from a friend. Make sure your
friend knows your one night stand's name, exactly where the two of you are going, when you're coming back, and how to
get a hold of you in case of an emergency. You can even ask your one night stand for his or her cellphone
number to give your friend. Tell your friend not to be afraid to
call it.
Get Dirty
Have fun during your one night stand. You can do things and
say things you might've felt too inhibited to do while you were in a relationship. On the other hand,
make sure that you know what your boundaries are with your one night stand and
don't feel any pressure to go beyond them.
Go Guilt-Free
Don't have any regrets about your actions the day after. (This is a good reason why you should talk yourself out of having
a one night stand if you've been drinking heavily.) A hangover can only make the
guilty feelings worse. If you made your
decision with a clear head and for good reasons, then when you start to feel
yourself slipping into some self-defeating talk -- then you can stop and
redirect your thoughts -- and instead tell yourself to enjoy the memories of one sexy fun evening.
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