Absolutely.
As long as you both know that it's a relationship that's
based on casual sex and nothing else, answer that late-night text and enjoy
yourself.
But what if you've got the feeling that you and he might be
good as a couple, both in and out of the sack?
Can a booty call turn into a committed relationship?
Most skeptics (and your mother) are going to say no.
But you know that you have an awesome time between the
sheets together, and you're wondering if you might not have a little something
going on outside the bedroom as well. You know you have a few things in common,
but should you, and well, can you…turn a booty call into a date?
The difference between a booty call and a boyfriend is that
the booty call is just sex. In fact, texting has become the standard way booty calls
communicate. So if you want to turn your regular booty call into a boyfriend,
you have to communicate on a much
deeper level.
First of all, stop
answering your texts late at night. Call back the next day after work, and If
he asks you where you were, tell him the truth -- you were asleep.
Don't give it up. If
you can tell that he is only going to see you for late night booty call sex,
and you want more, then don't try to get him to stay by having sex.
Try to find some
activities to that you both like to do, like going to a ball game or a band.
Make sure they are activities where you aren't alone.
Find some time to
talk when you're both fully clothed. Get to know him and let him get to really
know you.
Don't beat yourself
up if you slip up and get back into bed with him again after a late night text.
If the sex is hot -- it'll be hard to resist -- but it is the only clear path
to getting what you want.
Make the decision
that you'll stop answering his late night texts if he refuses to see you except
for late night sex, especially if you know that you have feelings for him that
are more than just about casual sex. Do this to protect yourself, so you don't
end up with a broken heart.
Sex without marriage is still a form of booty call.
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