Why would anyone sign up to be in a relationship with
someone who is geographically desirable?
Sometimes it's just not up to you. Career, school and family
are just a few of the factors that keep lovers whispering sweet nothings into
phones instead of each other's ears. It's not easy to be a part. There are a
lot of challenges to overcome. So if you're considering being in a long
distance relationship, here are a few tips to consider before you make the commitment.
1. Make sure you both agree you are in a committed long
distance relationship.
Set specific rules and make sure you both know the
boundaries for social activities outside of your relationship. Make sure you
and your partner know exactly where the line is before either of you cross it.
2. Try to communicate every day.
Use text messaging, phone calls, emails and Skype video
chats to stay in touch and keep the emotional intimacy that brought you
together in the first place going. Have phone sex. Get dirty with each other --
and enjoy the bond.
3. Have a shared hobby.
Watch a television show together. Read the same book. You
can do these activities hundreds of miles apart and still be able to discuss
and share them with each other. It's an invaluable connection between two
lovers who are living separate lives.
4. Take advantage of the benefits of a long distance
relationship.
There won't be any arguments over who didn't clean up after
dinner. There will be no one to yell at when the toilet seat lid is left up.
You can both enjoy traveling to see each other and discover new places in each
of the cities you live in. Take the time to learn to be alone and enjoy your
own company.
5. Talk about your future together.
It's most likely that you and your partner won't always live
in separate places. Talk about the future when distance won't be a factor in
your relationship and make plans.
6. Be trusting.
Encourage your partner to be social and interact with the
people at their work and in their community. It's healthy and will make them
happier.
7. Try not to be jealous.
Jealously is an ugly green monster that can poison a good
relationship with unwanted drama. Being overly suspicious is not a desirable
quality in a mate.
8. Be there for your partner.
You need to be sure to physically present to celebrate your
partner's life achievements. You also need to make arrangements to be at their
side if any health problems arise.
9. Send and share gifts frequently.
Send each other small tokens of affection that remind each
other of times when you were together. Share photos often.
10. When you are together make sure to schedule time to be
intimate.
Sex is a part of any health relationship. Make sure that you
make plans to be together alone.
