7 Tantric Secrets to Heat Things Up

Everyone knows that the holidays were a stressful time of year. Now that they’re gone, let’s re-focus by channeling all that stress into positive energy. Below are 7 tantric secrets to heat things up and give a truly lasting impression for your partner, here’s how:

1. Breathe! Most women lose their orgasm because they forget to exhale. Remember the “OoooHHHs”, “AHHHs” and OMGs!

2. Be open to new ideas, loosen up and relax. Pick a new position to try with your lover and let your imagination run wild. Try a Nuru massage. It’s an ancient Japanese form of body on body passion that’s sure to loosen you up. Wet’s Nuru Massage Gel Kit comes complete with massage gel, a protective sheet and an instructional DVD.

3. Surrender to your body’s emotions and feelings: Try a steamy shower or aromatic bath together and watch the sparks fly. Massage each other with Wet® Platinum® Silicone-Based Lubricant™ -- It works in the water, it’s guaranteed never to get sticky and it never dries so it leaves your skin feeling soft and moisturized. Caution: Very Slippery!

4. Connect with your partner: Try a blindfold and just feel each other; you’ll be more in tune with touch and profoundly deepen your connection.

5. Work out your sexual muscles: Doing so will help you gain control, make sex more exciting and give you greater control over your orgasms. Yoga and Pilates for your pelvic floor will bring the “umph” back into your life.

6. Hydrate and energize by integrating the kitchen/pantry: Find foods and liquids in the kitchen to put a glow back into sex. Fresh fruit like berries, kiwi, bananas, and mangoes are just a start or, try a Wet® Flavored® Gel Lubricant™ like watermelon, kiwi strawberry and wild blueberry, they are sugar-free, colorless, non-staining, kosher and latex friendly.

7. Quit the doldrums of sex and make the event as special as can be. Choose a day of the week or month that you can turn your attention to your partners every need. This will be the sacred moment that can intensify your orgasm. And, don’t forget to heat things up with Wet® Warming® Gel Lubricant™—especially when it’s snowing outside.

New Year’s Health Resolution --Start SEXercising!

Was your New Year’s resolution to start exercising? Instead, start SEXercising! Sex burns up about five calories per minute and helps tighten your pelvic floor, improve bladder control and intensify the big ‘O’. Sex is a great workout following child birth or during peri-menopause to tighten those pelvic floor muscles. Remember, you may be feeling dry ‘down there’, so keep WET® Platinum® Premium Concentrated Lubricant™ Serum on hand to use just before sex to ease penetration and provide maximum pleasure. First, try using this silky smooth silicone lube as an all over massage lotion to jump start the New Year. Because it’s silicone, it won’t break down in water so the shower or bath is also a great place to get the party started. Caution: Very slippery!

Breast Cancer: My story

Sometimes I can’t believe I ever had breast cancer. That’s what I want to tell all those sisters that heard the same words as I did, “its cancer/it’s malignant!” Because I feel absolutely GREAT today, I made it through that dark tunnel to a light on the other side I never dreamt possible. So, hang in there breast cancer survivors—life gets better and better –just be strong and take it one step at a time.

I had been going to a very well respected and recommended breast surgeon diligently every 6 months for years. It was strange that I felt a small lump under my arm and close to my right breast and scheduled a special visit for the Dr. to examine it. She assured me not to worry that she’s seen this type of cyst throughout her entire career and it was absolutely benign. She kept telling me it was nothing--for four years—and I listened, until it got so big that I couldn’t shave under my arm without nicking the lump and bleeding.

So, on January 5, 2010 I had elective surgery to remove the lump. Then I received that dreaded call…the one from the Dr. saying, “this is the worst mistake, I’ve ever made. The lump was malignant and we need to go back in and remove the lymph nodes to ensure it hasn’t spread.” The next week, I was under the knife once again and found myself thrown into a new world I had no experience with at all. The dreaded word I had feared all my life—with every routine mammogram, ultrasound and mammogram. CANCER!

I am a “baby boomer workaholic”. I run my own public relations agency in Houston, and I wasn’t prepared for the physical and emotional wallop that came following my breast cancer diagnosis. After undergoing a lumpectomy, lymph node removal surgery and six weeks of radiation, I was exhausted. But the tipping point came after I started a selective estrogen receptor modulator (SERM) treatment-Tamoxifen, which caused my estrogen levels to decrease. I was robbed of all of my estrogen. I had this horrible depression and normally I’m the happiest person in the world.

I immediately experienced a depression I had never known—stopped eating and lost a tremendous amount of weight. At 4’10” and 94lbs my entire life –I didn’t have much to lose. But my weight steadily declined along with my strength and that was tough. It was even tougher because my life needed to remain ‘business as usual’-- I didn’t want my clients or employees to know I was undergoing treatment –I didn’t want them to know I had cancer-- as I was certain they wouldn’t understand and I believed they would think I couldn’t get the job done. So, I continued working and traveling at the same pace.

Passing out at a client appointment and a day in the ER at M.D. Anderson was absolutely the tipping point. It served as my wake-up call. Changes needed to be made. And needed to be made fast. I was dying. Literally. My weight was down to 78 lbs and I had no strength to move. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a ghost—a ghost that was so boney and dried out-- I was embarrassed. Immediate action needed to be taken.

In addition to stopping the SERM treatment (with my doctor’s approval), I knew the best way to get out of the funk was to stay focused on the future, my wonderful children, my career and to improve my diet. I worked my way through it and just started eating well. Food was important—I ate a lot to get my strength back up. I had juice daily and filled up on fresh fruits and vegetables. Today, 3 years later I am finally back to myself-- I’m healthy, feel great and I no longer suffer from depression. I have time to relax. Once or twice a year I go to a yoga retreat, sit quietly and contemplate life. The diagnosis has made me think maybe there is something else I need to do in life.

I am now 55 years old and my journey thank goodness has a wonderful ending—or beginning I should say-- as I met my husband in the hospital and he asked me to marry him during treatment –UNBELIEVABLE!

Suzy’s top tips for refueling your tank:

• Chug your greens and fruits. I bought a Vita-Mix and make vitalizing juice concoctions with organic kale, tomatoes, cucumbers and celery, strawberries, banana, apple, flax and chia seeds. “I pretty much through everything into it and get stronger the more I drink.”


• Cut out white foods. “I didn’t have the energy to think. I had brain fog because I was exhausted.” My remedy: Eat lean chicken and fish, sweet potatoes, legumes, vegetables and fruit.


• Guzzle H20. Cancer treatments, such as radiation, can leave you dehydrated. I carry a bottle of water with me at all times to help me stay refreshed.


• Try Replens Moisturizer. The over-the-counter, non-hormonal solution to one of the most common and painful side effects of cancer treatment --vaginal dryness and atrophy. Surgery, chemotherapy, radiation and drugs like Tamoxifen, Raloxifene, and Aromatase inhibitors, cause dryness all over—the face, eyes, body and vagina. Replens is available at every drug store and is the only alternative to hormone therapy for us cancer survivors.


• Aquaphor is terrific to heal sores from radiation, dry lips, etc.


• Use a good silicone Lubricant to ease sex—try Wet® Platinum® just before sex because Cancer, surgery and treatments can affect sexuality, causing side effects like difficulty with arousal, loss of desire and inability to achieve orgasm. Pain sex can also be an issue due to dryness. But, know that help can be as close as the neighborhood pharmacy or online shopping cart.
  
  M.D. Anderson reports, “Women can use a water-based or silicone-based lubricant during sex or use a vaginal moisturizer to counter dryness or tightness in the vagina caused by cancer treatment. If the lubricants and moisturizers don’t help, another option is low-dose vaginal estrogen. For women who have had radiation therapy to the pelvic region, a vaginal dilator can reduce vaginal scarring or shrinking.”


• Think of Soul Source dilators as vaginal physical therapy help manage some of the side effects of chemotherapy by gently stretching the vaginal tissue, gradually making it more elastic and flexible over time. Remember, if you are using a silicone dilator, you want to use Wet’s water-based lube called, Wet® Original® Gel Lubricant, It’s also paraben-free, and kosher!


• Learn balance: take walks, baths, try yoga or meditation
  
  Learn about supplements and helpful meds to get you back on track. Vitamin –D, Curamin (BCM-95), fish oil. There’s nothing wrong with asking your doctor about taking an anti-depressant to repair those wires that fell out of place during the trauma. Effexor helps with hot flashes too brought on my cancer treatment and early menopause. Personally, I was unable to take Effexor as it caused extreme nausea—so work with your doctor to find the one that’s best for you. Lexapro worked wonders for me and there is absolutely no shame in seeking Rx help.
  
  Laugh a lot. I’m talkin’, Belly laugh! Have fun and surround yourself with positive energy. Lose the negative forces .


• Hang in there. Take every day as it comes and try to focus on the wonderful blessings in life—our family, friends and work—don’t let the brain jabber be all about dying. Remember it’s all about living and loving—because we are still here!

By Suzy Ginsburg

Tips For An Overactive Bladder

As you get older, any pressure on the bladder, such as sneezing, laughing, or jogging, or having SEX, may cause embarrassment, like leaking urine involuntarily…how unromantic! If you accidentally leak, you may have stress incontinence, which occurs when the muscles and tissue that help support the bladder become weak.  This most commonly affects women in mid-life, after childbirth or when there is a drop in estrogen.  It also affects both men and women during and after cancer treatment, as the nerves and muscles used to control urine flow can be affected. For men, removal of the prostate can impact the bladder’s mechanism for holding urine.

If you suffer with bladder issues, don’t despair because there is hope.  Just like your hamstrings or biceps, the muscle tone of the pelvic floor can be improved.  By strengthening these muscles, you can not only improve or eliminate stress incontinence, you can also improve your sexual health and responsiveness as well.  By developing an awareness of these muscles, you can learn to tone them, which can help if you are experiencing vaginal dryness, difficulty maintaining arousal, painful intercourse or the inability to orgasm. A simple exercise plan for your pelvic floor is all you need.

To start your exercise plan, squeeze the muscles of the pelvic floor as if you were going to stop the flow of urine.  To get the hang of it, when you go to the bathroom, try stopping the flow of urine a few times to find the muscles you need.  It is not recommended that you continue to practice this way after identifying the muscles since a frequent stop of the urine flow can affect the muscles of the bladder over time. Just use it is a guideline to find the muscles. You can then do sets of 10 repetitions of squeezing and holding for 3 seconds at a time -- just as you would at the gym.

Strengthening your pelvic floor also intensifies the experience of orgasm.  It will be your new favorite workout!  To lessen friction, irritation and pressure during sex, be sure to use a top quality lubricant like Wet® Platinum®  during foreplay and intercourse.  It doesn’t absorb into the skin or get sticky like most water-based lubricants, and it will last for hours without needing to re-apply.

By Madeleine M Castellanos, MD

http://www.thesexmd.com/

Naughty Santa’s Antidote

Baby, It’s Cold Outside!—Hot Holiday Stocking Stuffers and Ideas to Keep your Love Life Steaming Hot all Winter Long

Make your list and check it twice, this year being naughty has never felt so nice! Below are some sexy stocking stuffers and fun ideas to turn up the heat during those cold winter nights!

• Make a date to read Fifty Shades of Grey together in preparation for the Valentine’s Day movie.
• Make a romantic dinner, light the candles, chill the champagne or your favorite bottle of wine and slip into your sexiest negligee before you eat…don’t forget to feed each other your favorite finger foods.
• Act out a scandalous scene from the book.
• Draw a steamy tub for two, add Inttimo® By Wet® Aromatherapy Bath & Massage Oil to bathe each other. Once you are fresh and clean, take the oil to the bedroom and give each other an erotic massage. 
• Pour an after dinner drink and share it in the bath
• Blindfold and feed your partner chocolate-dipped strawberries…very slowly 
• Climb into bed and break open Wet® Nuru™ Body-On-Body Massage Gel to practice the ancient art of a sensual Japanese Massage --a nude body-on-body celebration of sensuality. The combination of moisturizing aloe vera, seaweed extract, grape seed and soothing chamomile flower extract are both intensely relaxing and highly stimulating, making for the perfect intimate experience. 
• Break out some slippery Wet® Warming™ Gel --it gently heats on contact and warms with motion. Blow on it and…voila --you’ll both get hot as it gets warmer. And, it’s latex friendly.
• Or, if you’re still hungry try Wet® Flavored™ Gel Lubricants. They’re sugar-free, colorless, non-staining, kosher, latex friendly and perfect for oral sex. Flavors include kiwi strawberry, juicy watermelon, sweet cherry, wild blueberry and passion fruit punch. 
• If you are practicing erotic, fun safe sex -- use a condom and be sure to keep it lubricated and friction-free with our most popular formula, Wet® Platinum® Premium Lubricant. 
• To maintain maximum heat, repeat previous steps often throughout the season

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10 Tricks For Building Intimacy

These tricks are a treat for you both.  Pick one or two and cast a romantic spell on your partner this weekend. 

1. Ask about their day.  Be sure to listen to the answers.  Don’t try to fix anything. Just listen.

2. Give a foot rub while you are sitting on the couch together—Inttimo by Wet™ Aromatherapy Massage & Bath Oil Invigorate™ with refreshing eucalyptus & citrus works wonders on tired feet.

3. Leave notes for your partner that shows them you are thinking of them.  Short and sweet or descriptive and sexy.

4. Public displays of affection can be hot and showing the world you are together will make your lover feel special.  Just be sure it’s within the comfort range of your partner and be respectful those around you.

5. Leave a bottle of Wet® Flavored™ Kiwi Strawberry™ lubricant where your lover can find it and when they ask about it, you tell them you’d like your treat now!

6. Body-on-Body Massage...Have you tried Nuru massage? Nuru is a sensual Japanese technique where both partners are completely nude and use full body contact to perform the massage with a thick, ultra-slippery, sexy gel like Wet® Nuru Massage Gel. Learn How to Nuru on Wet’s YouTube Channel.

7. Shower together.  Take time to clean every inch of your partner’s body and let them do the same for you.  Wet® Platinum® Premium Lubricant is perfect when getting wet together because it doesn’t break down in water…just remember to use caution as Wet Platinum is extremely slippery.

8. Go shopping together.  Surprise them and swing by your local adult specialty boutique. Pick out a new toy and a bottle of Wet® Ecstasy® Xtra Cooling Lubricant™. When you dab a few drops over your partner’s erogenous zones then gently blow on those areas, you’ll send gentle shivers of anticipation up your lover’s spine.

9. Tell them you love how they kiss.  This is a definite turn on for many.

10. Wake up your partner’s sexual appetite by cooking together.  Standing close together and feeding each other as you do can be very erotic.  You can also go straight to dessert with Wet® Fun Flavors® Warming, Flavored, Massage, and Lubricant all-in-one!

How to Scare Him Off in 10 Spooktacular Steps

We know it’s Halloween but doing these things will potentially scare that love interest away faster than you can say Trick-or-Treat.

1. Saying “I love you” too soon.  It takes time to get to know someone and really value them.  You might feel like you’re in love but that might be lust talking.  Wait until you know for sure.

2. Asking to meet their parents or children.  It’s usually best to let someone choose when this is appropriate. People are naturally protective of their inner circle.  Don’t force the issue in a new relationship.

3. Arguing against the things they are passionate about like political views or being vegan.  If you don’t agree on some fundamental things, it’s time to decide if it’s going to be a big turn off down the road or if it’s something you can learn to live with.

4. Constantly talking about your ex (either positively or negatively).  Nobody wants to feel like they are being compared to someone else.

5. Only talking about yourself. Most people want to know that you are interested in what is going on with them.  Take time to find out each time you are together.

6. Insisting on moving in together or leaving bridal magazines all over the house.  Let the relationship happen naturally. Things will fall into place if it is meant to be.

7. Going shopping or out to eat and expecting the other person to pay for everything, every time…If this is something that is important for you, it needs to be agreed upon in the very beginning of the relationship.

8. Texting or sexting your lover non-stop. How can they miss you if you won’t go away?

9. Talk about having kids and how many. This one is tricky. It is definitely important to talk about kids if you are set on having a certain number within a certain time frame. You need to determine if a potential mate has goals similar to yours. Just try to find a way to do it that doesn’t make it sound like you need to have them right now!

10. Judging their friends or family when you haven’t met them yet. Don’t let gossip or things you see on Facebook determine your opinion of someone you don’t know. If a person is important to your new love, they are probably going to be important to you going forward. Give them the benefit of the doubt in the beginning. Oh, and don't change your Facebook status too early either. Awkward.

Dr. Mary Jane Minkin Discusses Relief for Personal Dryness Due to Menopause

 

Health Watch - Wet Platinum Lubricant for Vaginal Dryness

Watch Doctor Mary Jane Minkin, a professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the Yale University School of Medicine, discuss issues associated with menopause - including bone health and whether women benefit from hormone therapy. Look! There is a bottle of Wet Platinum there on the table beside her where she recommends the use of products for relief of painful, dry sex.

Wet Platinum Premium Silicone Lubricant is an over-the-counter solution for temporary relief from vaginal dryness. Vaginal dryness is a common sexual arousal disorder. - Read more: About why doctor's recommend Wet Platinum Premium Silicone Lubricants here.

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SEX EDUCATION 101: 6 Things You Weren’t Taught in School...

What you weren’t taught in school…updated information to keep your love life safe and happy.

Summer has come and gone and students are back in school. Most likely it’s been awhile since you had a Sex Ed course and times have changed. Let’s face it—your information is old school!

New York psychiatrist and sex therapist Madeleine Castellanos, MD, offers updated, “new school” information that everyone should know to stay in the safe sex zone: 

• According to the CDC, nearly half of the 19 million new STDs contracted each year are among young people aged 15–24 years (2011).

• Oral sex is not considered ‘safe sex.’ HIV, HPV, herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis may all be transmitted via oral sex.  In addition, a 2011 study found that the proportion of oropharyngeal cancers related to HPV increased from 16.3% to 71.7% between 1984 and 2004.

• Make oral sex safer by using a flavored condom like DKT’s Prudence brand condoms, which offer a wide variety of flavors and scents (banana, watermelon, strawberry, grape, chocolate and more) guaranteed to tickle your taste buds as well as your partner’s fancy!  

• More than $8 billion is spent each year to diagnose and treat STIs and their complications, not including HIV (Guttmacher Institute). STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) are definitely out there.  Protect yourself from getting them and/or spreading them.

• Oil and latex do not mix—so using petroleum jelly, baby oil, moisturizers or everyday kitchen oils with a condom can cause the latex to break down and increases your chance of breakage and infection. Wet® Platinum® Premium Silicone Lubricant and Wet® Light® Liquid Lubricant are both latex-friendly. When used correctly, Wet lube also helps to reduce excess friction, thus lessening the risk of tears.

• That funky smell down there may have nothing to do with hygiene!  A number of everyday triggers, including menstruation, pregnancy, intercourse or medications, can upset the delicate vaginal ecosystem and elevate pH, causing an odor, increase or change in discharge, or a bacterial infection. Fragrance sprays, wipes and pads just mask the problem. RepHresh Gel keeps the pH balanced--an important tool in decreasing chances of bacterial vaginosis, and eliminating that “fishy” odor by treating the root cause.

Wet hopes these tips from sex therapist, MD and psychotherapist, Dr. Madeleine Castellanos will keep your love life safe and intimate this school year.

Did You Miss National Big "O" Day? Tips from The MD.

Did you miss national orgasm day?

National Orgasm Day, July 31, 2014, has come and gone but we’re still celebrating and we want you to come with us!  Joking aside, many, if not most of us, have too few orgasms. And it’s high time to fix that!

Did You Miss National Big "O" Day? Tips from The M.D.

Here are some great tips for putting the big “O” back on top as a national priority and enjoying bodacious orgasms on a regular basis. These points come from “The Sex M.D.,” Dr. Madeleine Castellanos, who is a respected author and sex therapist in New York. She says, “Our sexual functioning cannot be separated from our overall health and happiness.” In other words, good orgasms = good health! 

Dr. C’s tips:

1) Getting to orgasm is easiest when you are relaxed and focused on what’s erotic for you.

2) Learning how to time your breathing can help you reach orgasm more easily.

3) Orgasms cause the release of increased DHEA which is what makes your skin glow and look younger.

4) Using Wet Platinum Premium Silicone Lubricant, accepted as a 510(k) medical device, makes great sex viable and long-lasting even in the shower.  Caution: Very slippery!

5) Orgasms come in all sizes and intensities, so take the time to explore all the variations.

6) Even though orgasms are fantastic, the less you focus on them as a goal in sex, the more likely you are to heighten your arousal and actually reach orgasm.

7) Orgasms help a woman’s brain relax more profoundly than any other activity, even meditation.

8)  If you aren’t getting regular orgasms from sexual activity, take matters into your own hands and masturbate so you can orgasm at least 3 times per week.

9) Using an intimate health and stimulation device strengthens the pelvic floor muscles, which are key to achieving healthy orgasms and also preventing incontinence.

Read more about the reasons doctor's recommend Wet Platinum.

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Wet Brings Mo Beasley's LoveStorm to Los Angeles

When we first had the pleasure of seeing Mo Beasley's brand of steamy spoken word, feast for your greatest sex organ, the brain, The LoveStorm, we decided Wet Lubricants had bring it to the mainstage of the Jon Lovitz Comedy Club in Los Angeles, because the talent was off the charts, sexy entertainment.


Join us on Thursday, September 11th at 8PM at the Jon Lovitz Comedy Club to support Mo Beasley's LoveStorm: The Comedy of Eros for a night of fresh, sexy fun where anything can happen. The performance will showcase the funny side of the bed by exploring the inherent hilarity of love, sex, and relationships in the new millennium. The show features comedic genius of Regie Cabico, who has twice appeared on HBO’s Def Poetry Jam, Gordon James, SLAM and Mo Beasley himself with the soulful music sounds of Los Angeles native Maritri and more! Tickets are $15! Get yours today! http://bit.ly/ComedyOfEros

A show not to be missed, plus there may be a few surprises from Wet!

Mo Beasley

Mo Beasley This Boston born/Brooklyn, NY based Performance Artist, Author, and Educator, who, when not at the mic, teaches poetry/spoken word and theatre, and sexuality education courses/workshops to youth and adults throughout New York City and across the United States. The book version of his play, released by Scripted Linguistics (2004), is Beasley’s first published work. His second is “Be a Father to Your Child” (2008), a groundbreaking anthology on fatherhood and hip-hop. Mo has been featured on The Hallmark Channel, GRITtv, FOX 5 TV, XM Satellite Radio, WBAI/Pacifica Radio, KISS FM (NYC), Air America and more. In 2006, The New York Daily News selected Mo as one of "50 Unsung New York Heroes."

His client list has included Brooklyn Academy of Music (BAM), Kennedy Center, Duke Ellington School for the Arts, African Voices,Magazine, Children’s Aid Society, New Jersey Performing Arts Center, Penn State University and more.

Regie Cabico
Regie Cabico is the first openly gay and Asian poet to take top prizes in the 1993, 1994 & 1997 National Poetry Slam. He co-hosts La Ti Do: A Weekly Cabaret And Spoken Word Series and has appeared on 2 seasons of HBO’s Def Poetry Jam and NPR’s Snap Judgement. His latest solo play is "Godiva Dates & A One Night Stand" premiered at the 2013 Capital Fringe Festival. His plays have been produced at The Humana Theater Festival, Joe’s Pub (Public Theater), New York Live Arts, Contact Theater. He has shared the stage with Patti Smith, Allen Ginsberg and through Howard Zinn’s Portraits Project at NYU, has performed with Stanley Tucci, Jesse Eisenberg & Lupe Fiasco.

Gordon James

Gordon James was born in Kingston, Jamaica and has lived in Canada, Kenya, and the United States. He is a graduate of Dartmouth College, where he was an active member of The Black Underground Theatre Association. He received his M. F. A. in Acting from Brooklyn College and has performed leading roles in such productions as The Colored Museum, Six Degrees of Separation, The Island, and Tartuffe among others. His one man show Outbursts (www.outbursts.net) opened to critical acclaim in 2000. The show successfully returned to New York in 2004 for a two week run at the Gotham City Improv Theater, after which Mr. James took a two-year hiatus from performing to finish writing his second book of poetry, Baggage.  In 2007, Mr. James relocated to Los Angeles where he reprised Outbursts for west-coast audiences garnering impressive reviews from LA Weekly magazine and LACityZine who called it an “Exhilarating, funny, moving and expertly written--a must-see performance. ”

Mr. James currently resides in Hollywood and has a recurring on-screen role on Grey's Anatomy. He has also made appearances on ABC's Private Practice and in the movie Our Family Wedding. He also does voice-over work for the TV hit Scandal.


Maritri   
In 2002, Maritri made her classical piano debut at Steinway Hall in New York. She was subsequently commissioned, along with cellist Shana Tucker to compose music for two ballets at the Washington Ballet under the direction of Mary Day at the Kennedy Center and at the Witts Theatre in Johannesburg, South Africa. Maritri has opened for Gladys Knight, The Five Blind Boys of Alabama, Stanley Jordan, Toshi Reagon, Hiram Bullock, Muzz Skillings, Vinx and the Indigo Girls with her band Hue; appeared on BET on Jazz as a musician and host. Maritri was a backup singer for Barbara Streisand and Michael Amante. And trained Mary J. Blige to Play Nina Simone With acting coach, Susan Batson. She is founding member of the band Hue and the Soulfolk Experience.

Maritri was recently a featured performer on NPR in D.C. with the author Susan Minot. Performed at the 2014 NAACP Image Awards and has released several albums available on iTunes and Amazon. Her albums are The Soulfolk volume 1 and If Only I Could Breathe with Nick Cassarino. Currently she is working on the latest album due out by the end of the year.

SLAM
SLAM, is a Spoken Word Artist whose emotional delivery and thought provoking style have been gracing audiences since she first put pen to paper. A regular at Mo Beasley’s LoveStorm, she has produced and performed in “The Mystique of Fly” and “Dangerous Women”, both spoken word performance events held throughout New York. In 2008 she published her first book of poetry ‘So Black It’s Blue, So Red It’s Sky’. A regular in the NY scene she has been lighting up stages in Washington DC since her move in 2009. She has been a featured artist at Indulj, Lace, Pure Lounge, Urban Eats &, Station 9 Jefferson Bites, Spill! And is often featured at La Ti Do curated by Regie Cabico.  You can find SLAM on Facebook and she likes Pina Colada’s and getting lost in the rain.



There were too many folks to mention here. Come and see them all for yourself! You are guaranteed to come away wet...from tears of joy and laughter, of course.

See you all at the Jon Lovitz Comedy Club for a very fun, sexy, experience on September 11th. http://bit.ly/ComedyOfEros

The Day My Granny Panties Tried To Kill Me

I finally bought new bedroom furniture and as I was cleaning out my old chest of drawers, my underwear was splayed out on the bed, exposed for all to see.  I had no idea my husband had asked my 20-something year old nephew to come by and help us move the furniture.  To make matters worse, my 18 year-old daughter declares in front of everyone, “Mom, your underwear is so old! We need to go to a decent boutique and buy you some new ones.”  I’ll admit defeat.  It was time to step into this century.  To say I was a bit embarrassed would be an understatement but what happened next took me from pink-faced mom to eggplant purple with a side of “let me die right here”.

The adventure to the lingerie store started out fine enough.  My daughter decides she’s going to educate me on the styles that she and her contemporaries wear. Because you know, all teens think their parents live in a shell and have never heard of a thong, unless it’s worn on your feet.  Sure, I know what a thong is.  I personally prefer not to wear this type of butt-floss because I find them insanely uncomfortable.  Aside from those, my imagination was limited to the full brief (hi Granny) or basic bikini underwear usually found at any large major discount retailer.  Don’t ask me why, but I have always hated the word “panties”…it’s like the word “moist”. It just seems like a term that creeps out of a dark corner.  My mom called them underpants so I went ultra-modern and called them undies at our house.

Meanwhile, back at the lingerie shop, as the sales clerk approaches us, my daughter says, “My mom’s undies are so outdated.  It’s like she still has underwear from when I was born.” Ok, like I said, she’s 18, so possibly a bit of an over-exaggeration, but probably not that far off to be honest. The salesperson, let’s call her Jess, chuckles at this but, gratefully, acts unfazed.  She breaks her code of silence by asking me four little words that bring most women to their knees.  “What is your size?” Uhhhh…crickets here…uhhhh…size? “I have no idea. What sizes do they come in? Are they like S-M-L or are they in numbered sizes like 6-7-8-etc?”

“We carry both types of sizes” Jess says, “to make it easier.” Hmm, right, easier.  I must still look dazed and confused, standing there biting my lip, trying to figure out what my size is.  My sweet daughter, in her infinite wisdom, tries to help and explains: “Yeah, I doubt my mom is wearing the right size anyway and the size is probably so faded from too many trips through the washer and dryer, it’s not like we can just look at the tag to check.”  (Insert visible eye-roll by daughter and possible twinge by Jess here.)  “Hmmm, not wearing the right size” she says. Vertigo sets in.  What does she mean by this statement? Is Mom wearing undies that are swimmingly too big or are they too small, since, yes, I may have gained a few pounds since buying my last pair of (dramatic pause) panties… there I said it! Either way, I am not enjoying where this conversation is going, either is the salesclerk.    We get the size figured out, basically I am a size 6 or 7 depending on the style.  Success!

She then asks me what I usually wear and leads me over to a display of different styles.  Great, another decision.  Style choice.  It’s not getting any easier folks. Although I don’t wear large granny panties (Ooh, I said panties again! I am getting better at this), I do like my butt completely covered. Maybe it’s because I grew up in cold weather and the idea of having my butt cheeks hanging out makes me shiver. “Maybe it’s time for something new?” she goads.  I’m sure she meant style-wise, but all of this decision making was raising a hackle or two. “Yeah, that’s why I’m here, wasn’t looking to buy old underwear.” Hey, I thought it was funny.  Jess didn’t.  She’s starting to lose her patience with me, but thankfully she continues because it is painfully clear that I still need help.  The mannequins displayed in front of us are loaded with choices: Bikinis, V-kinis, Boy-Shorts, Hipsters, and Thongs in a variety of cuts like T-back, V-string, and G-string (in case you forgot, no way).  And all of those come in rise options like Low Rise, Petite Low Rise, (yeah, not on my end), Original Rise, Midrise, and Retro, which is a polite way of saying “Your Nana Never Saw Her Naval” rise.

As my head begins spinning like plates balancing precariously on a pole, I realize I am going to have to try something on to be sure.  The boy-shorts felt just like thongs to me, invading their way into the crack of my butt with ungodly force. The hipsters felt like they were not on all the way and I would want to keep tugging at them to pull them up, like a strapless evening gown beaten down by the inevitable gravity of the situation. Hipsters were out too.  I didn’t like the feeling of them clinging desperately to my thighs.  Disheartened, I slipped on a bikini style and discovered it is still one of my favorites.  Relegating myself to the same-old, same-old, I went for one last pair, the v-kini.  For those unfamiliar, it’s like a v-neck t-shirt only in bikini style.  I like the v-kini style because it rides higher on the hip but still has some style to it making me suddenly, triumphantly feel like this excursion had not been for naught.

Then, Jess drops the next question.  Sigh. More choices. “Do you prefer cotton, silk, lace, seamless or barely there panty so you can wear it under tight clothes?” Of course, the paranoia sets in. Is Jess inferring that my panty-line is showing?  Grappling with my mind to formulate an answer, in one breath, I squeeze out an incredibly pointed set of questions that is sure to bring Jess to just the right pair for me.  “Is there something with like a cotton-crotch area that is still pretty, some lace maybe or a waistband that has leopard print that would not have too many seams,  or at least a little sexier? But I don’t want silk, they just feel too slippery to me, like my butt is swimming in a pool.” My daughter glares at me with that ’Mommm’ you’re embarrassing me kind of look….HEY KID, I am still a woman too you know! “You started it” is all I have to say to her.

Finally, I end up with a set of cotton v-kinis, one in every color with a bit of lace trim.  I am sure Jess was relieved I had finally made a decision and a sizable purchase.  Although this trip was a bit rough at the beginning, I didn’t die after all. And if I had died of embarrassment, at least I would have been buried in my new, fresh, clean, sexy, fun panties!

Lori S. Choi, Blogger for Wet Personal Lubricants 
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 Lori S. Choi, Blogger for Wet Personal Lubricants 

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A Man And His Member by David M. Matthews

Lately there has been a proliferation of bad news: Deadlocked Washington legislators, corporate insolvency, war, famine, natural disaster, and the final airing of “How I Met Your Mother.”  Thus, rather than deal with anything too serious in this column, I decided to be a little more light-hearted.  The following is the result - an ode to the bond between men and their “manhood,” aimed primarily at our female readers.

To say, “Penises are attached to men,” is to simply state a fact.  But saying, “Men are attached to their penises,” is to proclaim an absolute truth.

As you may already know, nothing is so prized a possession to the average male as his own penis.  And while straight men have little or no interest in the external plumbing of their brethren (other than as a supporting character in a porno), they can become downright sentimental when pondering their close relationship to their own equipment.  To put it bluntly, most men consider their penis to be their best friend.  Sure, we are hugely attracted to women.  And yes, we enjoy the hell out of spending an evening of football, hot wings and frosty brews with our buds.  And true, our slipper-fetching Fido is among our favorite companions.  But our true BFF is that roll of flesh we keep sequestered in our shorts.

And why is “cherish” the word we use to describe our penis?  Three reasons: Loyalty, reliability and shared common interests.  As long as we can remember, our penis has been there for us.  Before we even understood its function as “party central,” we appreciated it as the visible symbol of our masculinity, the release valve for our bursting bladders, and a dandy way to practice our cursive in the snow.  Then when puberty hit, and all our hormones executed a blitzkrieg of our nether regions, our penises were there to rise to the occasion.  Suddenly the whole world of sexuality opened up for us, and it was our trusty tumescent friends who led the way.  In times of loneliness, frustration or insomnia, it was our penises that helped us relieve our pent-up tensions.  Participation in sports was a fine source of stress relief, but sadly not always convenient or available.  Our trusty wieners, however, were ever-ready for action, even late at night and in inclement weather. 

As I’m sure some of you are well aware, our affection is so great, that many of us even endow our endowment with a nickname.  These monikers can run the gamut from whimsical (“Mr. Happy”) to blatantly boastful (“Sasquatch”).  And so concerned are we about our units’ continued good health, that we faithfully endeavor to make certain our “little soldiers” get regular exercise.  That’s just how considerate we guys are.

Now you may be asking yourself, “What about his testicles?  He hasn’t even touched on them.  What are they…chopped liver (I shudder at the very image)?”  Well, the truth is, as much as we love and respect this secondary erogenous zone and sperm manufacturing facility, our balls are the “Achilles heel” of our genital compound.  They are our weakest link; our most vulnerable spot.  Truthfully, we are barely even cognizant of their existence until they are the unfortunate victim of a blunt force trauma.  Then, however, their presence drowns out our awareness of virtually all the rest of our anatomy.  So, while we wouldn’t want to part with them, the periodic pain associated with our family jewels prevents us from rhapsodizing about them as we do their neighbor to the north.

So you see, our fondness for our own penises cannot be overstated, and our allegiance to them should not be underestimated.  And why would you be interested in any of this (optimistically hoping, of course, that you are - and haven’t been “put off” by my dissertation on “a dude and his dingus”)? Because despite our dogged devotion to our penises, there is an anatomical accoutrement over which you have exclusive dominion that we are even more obsessed with.  I am referring to, of course…the vulva. We’re absolutely nutty about it.  And luckily, so are our little pals.  In fact, this popular destination is the top-rated gated community in which ten-out-of-ten female-seeking penises prefer to reside.  Be it ever so warm and cozy, there’s no place like home.

© 2014 David M. Matthews.  All Rights Reserved.  When he’s not telling people how to live their lives, this Emmy-winning composer works extensively in Hollywood as a writer, producer, and director for features films and network television.

Also by David M. Matthews: 10 Things Men Like About Breasts By David M. Matthews

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Do You Nuru? The Playboy Morning Show Girls Do!

On July 7th, The Playboy Radio Morning Show hosts Kevin Klein and Andrea Lowell provided a blow by blow commentary as three gorgeous models demonstrated the Nuru body-on-body Japanese massage technique on each other. Thank you, Hugh Hefner!

In the West, massage mainly involves hands-on-body, but not so with Nuru. In the East, they invented a more effective way to stimulate the nerves in the skin by exponentially multiplying the surfaces of touch. Two participants (or more). Totally nude. Coated with Wet® Nuru™ Body-on-Body Massage Gel. Get the picture? Body-on-body enjoyment is the ultimate erotic massage experience. The ultimate “contact high.”

Model #1 began by massaging Wet Nuru gel into her breasts. “I could watch that forever,” said host Andrea Lowell, who clearly thought Model #1 was doing a great job. Next, Model #2 poured the Wet product onto her own breasts and then onto Model #1's back and proceeded to administer “the rack massage,” in which she slid her breasts over the other girl's back, then over her butt, and pretty soon it was hard to tell who was giving and who was receiving the massage. Happy ending: A good time was had by all!

So we know summer is in full swing, but isn't it time to turn up the heat and give your lover a sensuous Nuru massage.  What is Nuru Massage exactly? Nuru is a style of massage that originated in Japan. It is a sensual massage between partners using full body contact to relax the body and stimulate mutual sexual appetites, done with both partners fully nude, using a thick, ultra slippery massage gel. Wet® Nuru™ Massage Gel is available in two formulas, Original and Concentrate, both with moisturizing Aloe Vera, Seaweed and Grapeseed Extracts and soothing Chamomile Flower extract. These formulas are 
designed for long-lasting play. Wet® Nuru™ Massage Gel is made in the U.S.A. with the highest quality ingredients.

Learn More about How to Nuru from our own videos on YouTube and then check out the Playboy girls on Vimeo.com  You need the links and password provided on this graphic.  18+ only and Definitely NSFW!!

10 Reasons to Use Wet Platinum

Why Wet Platinum? Here are 10 of the top reasons to use Wet Platinum.

1. Wet Platinum Stays Wet Longer.
Wet Platinum is a silicone-based lubricant. Unlike water-based lubricants, silicone molecules are large and are not absorbed, so they remain on the surface of the skin. Because Wet Platinum contains no water, it does not evaporate either, giving you longer-lasting, slippery, friction-free love making and play sessions. There is no mood-breaking, stopping to re-apply necessary. Platinum is always slick, guaranteed never sticky, and doesn’t dry out.

2. Wet Platinum Makes Sex Better.
Vaginal dryness and anal sex without lube nearby, is sure to stop pleasurable intercourse in its tracks. At least one partner at this point may feel turned off and be thinking “I could really use some lubricant right now!” With the mood already at stake, you’re going to need something you can grab quick, apply, and be able to get your groove on. Wet Platinum is the best choice because it’s easy as 1, 2, and 3! Grab it, squeeze it, apply it and you’re ready to go. Absolutely no need to worry because Platinum gives you the perfect slippery glide, and won’t become messy, clumped up, dried out, or sticky. Platinum also won’t burn or disrupt your pH Balance. And since it won’t dry out, you just need a small amount. Apply Wet Platinum to your penis, vagina, sex toys*, and interior/exterior of your condom or anywhere else your heart desires, slip right in, work your magic and enjoy the ride.

*Please note that Wet Platinum is not recommended for use with silicone toys.

3.  Wet Platinum is Safer.
A 2010 Study by Microbicides: Building Bridges in HIV Prevention, named the Use Of Lubricants, Unprotected Anal Sex and the Risk of HIV, compared five lubricants against each other (Astroglide, Elbow Grease, ID Glide, KY Jelly and Wet Platinum). A sixth product named PRÉ was used as a control. The study was looking for the safest lubricant that did the least amount of damage to cellular walls, during anal sex. Damage to cell walls during sex can cause tearing and increase the likelihood of transmission of STI's. The study concluded that "Wet Platinum and PRÉ were the safest. The hyperosmolar nature of the other lubricant gels was associated with cellular toxicity and may lead to increased risk of HIV infection." Wet was the only silicone-based lubricant in the study. The others were water-based. This and one other study examining the effects of sexual lubricants used in anal sex were presented in April at the International Microbicides Conference.

Safety Precaution:  Wet Platinum is very slippery so take care to clean any spills immediately. 

4. Wet Platinum Has Many Uses. 
Dab it in your hair for some shine. Condition your skin and Latex Fetish Wear. Use it for vaginal and/or anal sex. Masturbate in the shower or in bed. Use a palm size amount to give your partner a sensual massage (and it won’t dry up!). Use it to get a really close shave, but be careful not to slip on it in the shower. Put a drop of Platinum on a sticking door or cabinet to stop the squeaking, or use it to untangle knotted bicycle or jewelry chains. Glide it over your body and slip easily in to your wetsuit. Detangle the tail and mane of your horse. The possibilities are endless!

5.  Wet Platinum Uses the Highest Quality Ingredients and is a 510k Accepted Medical Device.
Wet Platinum uses ingredients that are non-GMO (Genetically Modified Organism), gluten-free, vegan friendly, and contains only plant derived glycerin. Wet Platinum is an FDA (Food and Drug Administration) accepted, Class II medical device. It is also certified Kosher.  That’s right!  Platinum contains no animal-based ingredients and is manufactured and self-certified according to guidelines set forth by the Rabbinical Council of California.

6.  No Smell. No Taste. 
A common complaint about personal lubricants is the way they taste and/or smell.
We take this complaint seriously. While Wet Platinum is an accepted medical device, it does not smell or taste like an antiseptic or any other chemical. It’s completely odorless, has no taste and is considered harmless if ingested.

7.  Doctor Recommended.
The Wet Platinum formula is non-irritating.  Since it has no pH, it won’t disrupt a woman’s pH balance.  Wet products are sampled in medical offices throughout the United States and Canada and have received stellar patient reviews and recommendations from medical doctors. Read more about why Wet is doctor recommended.

8.  Available Everywhere.
Wet has been widely available in love boutiques since 1989.  We understand that not everyone is comfortable visiting their local adult boutique and not all of us live in a city where adult boutiques exist. The adult boutiques do offer a wider selection of Wet products and other intimacy products so check them out if you have the opportunity.  For your convenience, Wet is now widely available in all major pharmacies and mass market retailers across the United States and Canada, and is available online as well, with discreet shipping at www.buywet.com.

“Not a day goes by that I do not mention your products,” says Dr. Jacob Klein. “The availability in CVS and Walgreens has certainly helped.”

To locate a store near you, that carries Wet, please visit Wet Locator.

9.  Can Be Used in Water.
There really is nothing better than hot sex in the shower. Besides installing handles on your shower walls to hold on to during your steamy sessions, the next essential item is a bottle of waterproof lubricant. Take silicone-based Wet Platinum in the shower with you, squirt some on your fingers, apply to self and/or partner and you’re ready to go. Wet Platinum can also be used in Jacuzzis, lakes, rivers, oceans, bathtubs, and swimming pools. The water will roll over the lube like a bead of water on a leaf. When you’re done and want to clean up just lather up and rinse off, or carry a package of baby wipes on you for fast efficient clean up.
Caution:  Silicone lubricants will break down the silicone seals on your hot tubs, spas and pools over time so it’s best to use it sparingly.

10.  It’s Good Karma! 
We believe that companies are like individuals, each creating their own "Karma." Giving back has been paramount to us since our inception. Through our charitable giving program, we contribute to the work of more than 300 non-profit organizations worldwide.


Kylene Wolfstein, Blogger for Wet Personal Lubricants