How to Scare Him Off in 10 Spooktacular Steps

We know it’s Halloween but doing these things will potentially scare that love interest away faster than you can say Trick-or-Treat.

1. Saying “I love you” too soon.  It takes time to get to know someone and really value them.  You might feel like you’re in love but that might be lust talking.  Wait until you know for sure.

2. Asking to meet their parents or children.  It’s usually best to let someone choose when this is appropriate. People are naturally protective of their inner circle.  Don’t force the issue in a new relationship.

3. Arguing against the things they are passionate about like political views or being vegan.  If you don’t agree on some fundamental things, it’s time to decide if it’s going to be a big turn off down the road or if it’s something you can learn to live with.

4. Constantly talking about your ex (either positively or negatively).  Nobody wants to feel like they are being compared to someone else.

5. Only talking about yourself. Most people want to know that you are interested in what is going on with them.  Take time to find out each time you are together.

6. Insisting on moving in together or leaving bridal magazines all over the house.  Let the relationship happen naturally. Things will fall into place if it is meant to be.

7. Going shopping or out to eat and expecting the other person to pay for everything, every time…If this is something that is important for you, it needs to be agreed upon in the very beginning of the relationship.

8. Texting or sexting your lover non-stop. How can they miss you if you won’t go away?

9. Talk about having kids and how many. This one is tricky. It is definitely important to talk about kids if you are set on having a certain number within a certain time frame. You need to determine if a potential mate has goals similar to yours. Just try to find a way to do it that doesn’t make it sound like you need to have them right now!

10. Judging their friends or family when you haven’t met them yet. Don’t let gossip or things you see on Facebook determine your opinion of someone you don’t know. If a person is important to your new love, they are probably going to be important to you going forward. Give them the benefit of the doubt in the beginning. Oh, and don't change your Facebook status too early either. Awkward.

Tips to Spring Clean Your Relationship and Start the Season Fresh (and Frisky)

Winter weather is behind us and the signs of Spring are everywhere: temperatures rising, buds budding, birds chirping, and bees buzzing. Now’s the time to Spring clean our homes—and also our relationships.

“Whether you’re in a new relationship…or feel like you’ve been together forever, it’s time to take a step back and assess what’s working and what’s not,” says Madeleine Castellanos, MD, Manhattan relationship guru and sex therapist. “If something isn’t working, and you’re feeling less than connected to your partner you might try some simple refresher tips to help bring you and your partner closer together,” she advises.

Below are some insightful tips from Dr. Castellanos to spring clean your relationship and restore the sparks of passion. After all, Spring is the season of Amore…and love is in the air!

1. Find new interests together. Maybe you don’t do enough fun stuff together any more. Or maybe your outings have fallen into a rut. Take some time and find new activities a deux—a sport or a hobby like Argentine Tango, square dancing, or golf. Sometimes just making a simple choice for a regular “date night” can inspire new closeness.
2. Set aside time to fantasize. Share your fantasies with your partner or keep them to yourself. Bottom line: fantasizing is a great way to prime the pump for your heart and passion to soar. Don’t be afraid to push the envelope a little! There’s no judgment in the world of imagination.
3. Listen to your partner’s wants, needs and desires.  You don’t have to fulfill all of them, but you do need to listen. Also, feel free to whisper sweet, spicy messages that you don’t usually say out loud. The ears are located close to the brain for a reason—so use that pathway to flip the “turn on” switch in your partner’s brain!
4. Get back into gazing into each other’s eyes. Taking a couple of minutes every day to do this can communicate your deepest feelings without words. It actually helps to align your heart and mind with your partner’s in the subtlest way. In other words, dare to stare!
5. Reach out and connect. A simple phone call at lunch to say, ‘I miss you’ can make your lover’s whole day; a sexy text message can prime you both for an evening of intimacy; and a meaningful touch on the arm or even hand-holding while walking the dog, can really restore your connection. Don’t underestimate the power of touch for physical, emotional, and sexual healing.

Get Organized with New Bedroom Supplies

1. Spring clean your bedroom routine. Stuck with the same-old/same-old between the sheets? Try something new, such as sexy lingerie, enticingly fragrant Inttimo by Wet™ aromatherapy massage and bath oils, and Wet® Flavored™ Gel Lubricants—which really add a new level of sizzle to a hum-drum bedroom routine.
2. Find fresh adventures together. Spring is the perfect time to celebrate love. Pack your weekend get-away bag and don’t forget to bring some romantic gifts, gastronomic delicacies, Wet® Platinum® lube (the long-lasting, condom-compatible type that never dries up or gets sticky), and a copy of Getaway Guide to the Great Sex Weekend by Dr. Pepper Schwartz. Also, take along Dr. Lauren Streicher’s newly published Love Sex Again!
3. Add some natural aphrodisiacs to heat up your life. Dark chocolate, hot chilies, garlic, oysters, pomegranates, and the Peruvian root Maca, are all known to be time-tested love-enhancers. Don’t hold back…feed them liberally to your mate, and you may become the main course!

So, now that the chill of winter is over and the coolness of spring is here you know what that means...the sizzling heat of summer is just around the corner.  Why wait? Gear up for summer fun now, get busy, change routines, and get frisky.