Tips to Spring Clean Your Relationship and Start the Season Fresh (and Frisky)

Winter weather is behind us and the signs of Spring are everywhere: temperatures rising, buds budding, birds chirping, and bees buzzing. Now’s the time to Spring clean our homes—and also our relationships.

“Whether you’re in a new relationship…or feel like you’ve been together forever, it’s time to take a step back and assess what’s working and what’s not,” says Madeleine Castellanos, MD, Manhattan relationship guru and sex therapist. “If something isn’t working, and you’re feeling less than connected to your partner you might try some simple refresher tips to help bring you and your partner closer together,” she advises.

Below are some insightful tips from Dr. Castellanos to spring clean your relationship and restore the sparks of passion. After all, Spring is the season of Amore…and love is in the air!

1. Find new interests together. Maybe you don’t do enough fun stuff together any more. Or maybe your outings have fallen into a rut. Take some time and find new activities a deux—a sport or a hobby like Argentine Tango, square dancing, or golf. Sometimes just making a simple choice for a regular “date night” can inspire new closeness.
2. Set aside time to fantasize. Share your fantasies with your partner or keep them to yourself. Bottom line: fantasizing is a great way to prime the pump for your heart and passion to soar. Don’t be afraid to push the envelope a little! There’s no judgment in the world of imagination.
3. Listen to your partner’s wants, needs and desires.  You don’t have to fulfill all of them, but you do need to listen. Also, feel free to whisper sweet, spicy messages that you don’t usually say out loud. The ears are located close to the brain for a reason—so use that pathway to flip the “turn on” switch in your partner’s brain!
4. Get back into gazing into each other’s eyes. Taking a couple of minutes every day to do this can communicate your deepest feelings without words. It actually helps to align your heart and mind with your partner’s in the subtlest way. In other words, dare to stare!
5. Reach out and connect. A simple phone call at lunch to say, ‘I miss you’ can make your lover’s whole day; a sexy text message can prime you both for an evening of intimacy; and a meaningful touch on the arm or even hand-holding while walking the dog, can really restore your connection. Don’t underestimate the power of touch for physical, emotional, and sexual healing.

Get Organized with New Bedroom Supplies

1. Spring clean your bedroom routine. Stuck with the same-old/same-old between the sheets? Try something new, such as sexy lingerie, enticingly fragrant Inttimo by Wet™ aromatherapy massage and bath oils, and Wet® Flavored™ Gel Lubricants—which really add a new level of sizzle to a hum-drum bedroom routine.
2. Find fresh adventures together. Spring is the perfect time to celebrate love. Pack your weekend get-away bag and don’t forget to bring some romantic gifts, gastronomic delicacies, Wet® Platinum® lube (the long-lasting, condom-compatible type that never dries up or gets sticky), and a copy of Getaway Guide to the Great Sex Weekend by Dr. Pepper Schwartz. Also, take along Dr. Lauren Streicher’s newly published Love Sex Again!
3. Add some natural aphrodisiacs to heat up your life. Dark chocolate, hot chilies, garlic, oysters, pomegranates, and the Peruvian root Maca, are all known to be time-tested love-enhancers. Don’t hold back…feed them liberally to your mate, and you may become the main course!

So, now that the chill of winter is over and the coolness of spring is here you know what that means...the sizzling heat of summer is just around the corner.  Why wait? Gear up for summer fun now, get busy, change routines, and get frisky.

Sex Myth's Busted – Oral Sex Is NOT exactly Safe Sex, But It Can Be Safer Sex With These Tips!

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Sex Myth’s Busted: Anal Sex Is Only For Gay Men & Anal Sex Hurts

Although not everyone has experienced anal sex, once tried, those we talk to about it often wonder afterwards why they hadn’t tried it before.  It is not uncommon for Wet Personal Lubricants to be asked via a Direct Message on Facebook or Twitter (@WetTogether) what to expect the first time when having anal sex. This is a subject you must discuss openly with your partner, so once you the two of you agree to the when and where’s, here are a few answers to those burning questions, before you go uh….there.

1.    “Isn’t it too dirty? I mean physically dirty there?” Many people prefer to do an enema prior to having anal sex because they think it’s going to be a dirty place.  It’s actually not as dirty as you might think. The rectum and anal canal do not typically store fecal matter.  That said, you should not penetrate the vaginal area immediately following anal sex unless the toy or penis is cleaned well with mild soap and water first to avoid any vaginal infections.

2.    “Won’t having anal sex stretch out my anus too much and cause me to have “accidents” in the future?”  This is another idea that is pure myth.  Similar to the vagina, the external and internal sphincters are flexible muscles and can accommodate various sizes without the possibility of losing complete control over them.  There is a possibility of damaging or tearing the muscles so it is important that you go slowly, relax, use lots of lubricant and stop if there is any pain.

3.    “But if I give him anal, will he want to do vaginal sex any longer?”  Yes, the anal entry is tighter than the vaginal opening, however, this is not a major concern.  Most partners, we find, want to keep their options…well, open.

4.     “Will it harm me? Will it be painful? Having sex anally?” It shouldn’t be harmful nor should it be painful.  First, take it slowly.  Second, be sure to use that one key ingredient for anal sex--personal lubricant, it should within reach say on or in your nightstand.  We recommend Wet Platinum Premium Personal Lubricant or Wet Uranus Anal Lubricant.   Wet Uranus is specifically formulated to provide the lubrication that the anus cannot create on its own.  Remember to use it liberally and often.

5.    “If I am not worried about getting pregnant, do I need to use a condom?”  We suggest that you do use a condom—every time. We always advocate safe sex, as anal sex is a high risk activity for transmitting and contracting STDs.  Talk to your doctor if you have had unprotected anal sex even if you believe yourself to be in a monogamous relationship.  Also, as previously stated, it is also a good idea to use Wet Platinum Premium Personal Lubricant on the condom; this will reduce the risk of breakage due to the vigorous use in a dry area like the anus.

Remember to always have consent before trying anal sex with your partner.  If you find this information helpful, be sure to forward it to a friend. You’d be surprised how many can benefit from an open dialog about sex.  Wet Uranus Anal Lubricant is available at most local adult boutiques or online at Buywet.com, where discreet shipping is available.




Lori S. Choi, Blogger for Wet Personal Lubricants

Sex Myths – Busted! Vaginal Dryness – It's A Problem Only For The Post-Menopausal, So Only Older Women Need Lubricants

Wrong and Busted! The belief that only post-menopausal women experience vaginal dryness is a misconception and it is important for younger women to be informed.  Vaginal dryness can occur at any age, for many reasons, and surely can be due to menopause as well.  Of course, we are partial to using lubrication during sex as it enhances sexual satisfaction no matter what the age.  But there are several important medical factors that can leave a woman needing the additional moisture.

1. Birth Control Pills – Women of all ages may be on the pill, and while a lucky few find the pill to be libido-enhancing, (most likely because the fear of getting pregnant is not on their mind and they are able to relax);  for others, taking a birth control pill can cause a drop in hormone levels that are responsible for lubrication causing vaginal dryness and in some cases painful sex.  Using lubrication on and around the vagina and on his penis will greatly enrich your experience.

2. Bike-Riding – Yeah, you know that great spin class you have that makes you lean forward? Seriously, for those who spend hours cycling: If your handle bars are too low and you find yourself leaning forward, putting too much weight on the pelvis can cause low blood supply to the vaginal area which may cut off the ability to orgasm! Don’t believe me? Click here to watch Dr. Lauren Streicher explain it all.

3. Sex After Hysterectomy – Although we hope you don’t need this procedure, if you do have to have a hysterectomy, from medical necessity, it is important to use a lubricant when having sex for the first time after this surgery.  It will make you and your partner much more comfortable and worry-free and isn’t that what great sex is all about? Leaving your worries at the door.


Wet Personal Lubricants are available in a variety of types from silicone-based, water-based, glycerin-free, and hybrids of all of these. If you have any of the medical issues above be sure to talk with your own doctor about them, but we recommend silicone-based Wet Platinum Premium Personal Lubricant for you.  It is our slickest, most long-lasting formula and it is silky smooth, doctor recommended, condom compatible and an FDA accepted medical device.  Also, it’s now kosher!  You're welcome!


by Lori S. Choi, Blogger for Wet Personal Lubricants

Did You Know Arousal Can Be Awakened?

Yes, Arousal Can Be Awakened

The anticipation of sex or the feeling of sexual arousal you get from this anticipation can be nurtured and awakened, even from a long slumber. There are steps you can take to bring back the passion and desire for sex, and the desire for your partner, to levels greater than before. 

Let’s examine the common psychological causes of low libido. Lack of sexual desire can be rooted in self-consciousness about our body, performance anxiety, lack of sleep, stress from work or financial challenges, obsessing over creating the perfect environment for sex or the perfect fantasy for you or your partner.  Each of these conditions can interfere with sexual arousal, squelching our lust and robbing us of the heightened sexual arousal you get from mere anticipation.  Sexual trauma or getting past the fear of rejection can also be obstacles to overcome. If you are experiencing difficulty with desire, it is ok to seek professional counseling.  There are many professionals who specialize in this field.

What can you do to combat the lack of sexual arousal on a daily basis? Aside from the popular physical fix of the ‘little blue pill’ for men and perhaps the controversial new “O” Shot for women, there are a number of things you can do to stimulate your brain which is an important sexual organ. 

•  Get enough sleep.

•  Get plenty of exercise. Not only will you like yourself better and be less likely to be self-conscious about how you look, but there is evidence that any form of exercise that gets your blood pumping also increases blood flow to the genitals--this will be arousing in itself. 

•  Don’t bring tense discussions or disagreements into the bedroom. Leave those in a jar by the door. You can pick them up later. 

• You must be able to set time aside to fantasize. This is difficult for some people but with practice, it works.  Your fantasies can be very vanilla or very exotic. They are yours and you can choose to share them or keep them for yourself. As long as they are arousing to you, they are good for this exercise.

•  You must be able to communicate your wants, needs, and desires.

•  As someone in a relationship, you must be able to listen to your partner’s wants, needs, and desires.  You don’t have to fulfill all of them, but you do need to listen.

Be a good listener.  It is tempting to say…“Yeah, me too” or to chime in with some way to “fix” the situation.  Don’t! Just listen. Try a hug and say, ‘I am sorry you are going through this’. You’d be surprised how this affection will translate into sexual desire later.

Be Engaged.  Be actively interested in your partner by making time together to do arousing activities--By arousing, I mean fun, joyful, activities that awaken your senses -- a wide variety of choices abound.  Whether you are walking arm-in-arm through the forest, running on a beach, playing golf, cooking a spicy meal together that you have never tried before or watching a movie while cuddling on the couch, be in the moment and take in all the sights, scents, and sounds around you.

Stay Connected.  A phone call at lunch just to say, ‘I miss you.’; A sexy text message can prime you both for a steamy evening; A touch on the arm while laughing at jokes or even hand-holding while walking the dog, shows that you still care. The power of touch cannot be underestimated. The temperature in your relationship should increase exponentially and carry you through to an evening of bliss.  If you still find yourself with a lack of desire, try initiating sex yourself, even if you are not usually the initiator. Use it or lose it is true for sexual desire. You need to stoke the flames to keep that fire burning.

Still feeling lackluster?  Try massage first.  Use sensual touch rather than sexual touch.  You may find that putting in the time can yield sexy results.  Be sure to check in with your partner to be sure they are feeling the same way before switching to sexual touch.  Don’t have an agenda, just enjoy the massage.

Using the power of sensual touch can whet sexual appetites if you are open to it.  We suggest trying Inttimo Massage oil. Unleash your sensual power through the ancient healing art of Aromatherapy. Inttimo by Wet's silky blend of seven vitamin-enriched natural oils glide on easily. Whether massaged into the skin, sprinkled into the bath water, or used to pamper every inch of each other’s body... Inttimo Aromatherapy Oil will balance mind, body, and spirit.

Available in five unique scents:
Forbidden Fruit™ (Wild Berries) , Romance™ (Cedarwood & Patchouli), Sensuality™ (Ylang-Ylang & Tuberose), Invigorate™ (Eucalyptus & Citrus), and Cucumber Melon™.

More Hot Tips:
1. Greet Your Partner with a Kiss.
Hug and smooch immediately upon entering the door. This is something couples who have been together for a long time sometimes forget.  Getting that hug at the end of the day makes your partner feel wanted and adored which helps relieve stress from a long day.  It also releases oxytocin in the brain which makes us feel bonded.

2. Read Sexy Novels Aloud Together.
Suggested reading: Nancy Friday’s “My Secret Garden” and “Forbidden Flowers”. Read aloud to each other in segments, then, talk about what you find arousing in what was just read. Reading together and discussing how you feel helps explore desire and develops understanding how to feel good about what you want and you’ll both find it stimulating.

3. Surprise Your Partner and Show Your Gratitude.
Try giving a new bottle of flavored lube with a love note, that says... “Remember to save room for dessert.”  Wet Flavored Gel Lubricants are pure fun and taste like real fruit. Pour them on for a tasty treat!  Feels Delicious!®  Now kosher!

by Lori S. Choi, Blogger and Advice Columnist

Although Valentine's Day Is Not For Everyone, Wet Personal Lubricants...

...would like to wish you all a Happy Valentine's Day.  It can be rough if you are single, but then, so can be many of the other holidays too. You need to treat yourself to something special today, and it doesn't have to be pounds of chocolate.

Several friends have asked what to give for Valentine's Day. Here's a suggested Valentine's night plan: First, run a hot bath to relieve your partner's stress from a long day at work dealing with the clowns. Then, give the best massage -- this is something, deep down, we all know our partner's can appreciate, and a happy ending doesn't hurt either.  Trust us, you will be closer for it.

Whether you share the love with someone special, or just love yourself, either way...make you or someone you love happy today.  Hugs to all.  And remember to Get Wet.

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February 14th Is Not Just Valentine’s Day, It’s Also National Condom Day!

Why is it important to have a National Condom Day you ask?  Unfortunately, most people don’t realize that HIV infections are still on the rise and this is in part because most infected people don’t even know they are infected.  Don’t be fooled into having unprotected sex just because your potential partner, especially a new partner, says they were recently tested and are “clean”.  They may truly believe they are telling the truth about having been cleared, when they may not even be aware that they are not. In fact, many who get tested for STD’s wrongly assume they are being tested for HIV when in reality, this is not necessarily true.  Your doctor or clinic will only test you for HIV if you specifically ask for that test, so even though they got an "All Clear" result from a recent visit, it may be only for the list of STDs the doctor tested for.  So, bottom line, if you are having sex, we always recommend having safe sex.  

And we also suggest using a latex-friendly lubricant, whether having anal sex or not, it is a good idea when using a condom.  Studies have found there is less breakage of condoms when a lubricant is used.  No matter what your age, a lubricant will make your experience more enjoyable.  We want you to try it and let us know if you agree.  Dr. Laura Streicher agrees--which is why she helped us get the word out during her appearance on a Windy City Live in Chicago last June and helped us in the  distribution of 50,000 safe sex kits there. Watch the video of Dr. Streicher's appearance on Windy City Live to hear what she says about choosing a silicone or water-based lubricant and much more during her Q and A from the viewers, watch the hilarity…

And remember ladies, if you are old enough to be having sex, then don’t be shy…carry your own condoms.  Don’t rely on him to bring a condom to the party.  And of course, get tested!