Tips to Spring Clean Your Relationship and Start the Season Fresh (and Frisky)

Winter weather is behind us and the signs of Spring are everywhere: temperatures rising, buds budding, birds chirping, and bees buzzing. Now’s the time to Spring clean our homes—and also our relationships.

“Whether you’re in a new relationship…or feel like you’ve been together forever, it’s time to take a step back and assess what’s working and what’s not,” says Madeleine Castellanos, MD, Manhattan relationship guru and sex therapist. “If something isn’t working, and you’re feeling less than connected to your partner you might try some simple refresher tips to help bring you and your partner closer together,” she advises.

Below are some insightful tips from Dr. Castellanos to spring clean your relationship and restore the sparks of passion. After all, Spring is the season of Amore…and love is in the air!

1. Find new interests together. Maybe you don’t do enough fun stuff together any more. Or maybe your outings have fallen into a rut. Take some time and find new activities a deux—a sport or a hobby like Argentine Tango, square dancing, or golf. Sometimes just making a simple choice for a regular “date night” can inspire new closeness.
2. Set aside time to fantasize. Share your fantasies with your partner or keep them to yourself. Bottom line: fantasizing is a great way to prime the pump for your heart and passion to soar. Don’t be afraid to push the envelope a little! There’s no judgment in the world of imagination.
3. Listen to your partner’s wants, needs and desires.  You don’t have to fulfill all of them, but you do need to listen. Also, feel free to whisper sweet, spicy messages that you don’t usually say out loud. The ears are located close to the brain for a reason—so use that pathway to flip the “turn on” switch in your partner’s brain!
4. Get back into gazing into each other’s eyes. Taking a couple of minutes every day to do this can communicate your deepest feelings without words. It actually helps to align your heart and mind with your partner’s in the subtlest way. In other words, dare to stare!
5. Reach out and connect. A simple phone call at lunch to say, ‘I miss you’ can make your lover’s whole day; a sexy text message can prime you both for an evening of intimacy; and a meaningful touch on the arm or even hand-holding while walking the dog, can really restore your connection. Don’t underestimate the power of touch for physical, emotional, and sexual healing.

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1. Spring clean your bedroom routine. Stuck with the same-old/same-old between the sheets? Try something new, such as sexy lingerie, enticingly fragrant Inttimo by Wet™ aromatherapy massage and bath oils, and Wet® Flavored™ Gel Lubricants—which really add a new level of sizzle to a hum-drum bedroom routine.
2. Find fresh adventures together. Spring is the perfect time to celebrate love. Pack your weekend get-away bag and don’t forget to bring some romantic gifts, gastronomic delicacies, Wet® Platinum® lube (the long-lasting, condom-compatible type that never dries up or gets sticky), and a copy of Getaway Guide to the Great Sex Weekend by Dr. Pepper Schwartz. Also, take along Dr. Lauren Streicher’s newly published Love Sex Again!
3. Add some natural aphrodisiacs to heat up your life. Dark chocolate, hot chilies, garlic, oysters, pomegranates, and the Peruvian root Maca, are all known to be time-tested love-enhancers. Don’t hold back…feed them liberally to your mate, and you may become the main course!

So, now that the chill of winter is over and the coolness of spring is here you know what that means...the sizzling heat of summer is just around the corner.  Why wait? Gear up for summer fun now, get busy, change routines, and get frisky.

Eight Role Playing Ideas For The Bedroom & Beyond

Have you ever thought that if you were Angeline Jolie and Brad Pitt you’d be having fantastic sex right now? Maybe you’re thinking that it would be awesome to have sex in a hotel with a mysterious stranger? Maybe you’d like to fulfill your fantasies about having sex outdoors.

You can do all of these things…and create more intimacy between you and your partner with role playing. It’s a great way to spice up your sex life and fulfill fantasies that you never thought could come true.The best part about role playing is that you get to be anyone you want, and that usually means that inhibitions slowly disappear. And that’s when the party really gets started.

If you and your partner haven’t played these kind of games before (and neither one of you is a classically-trained Shakespearian actor) start off with something simple with roles that are familiar to you both. And if you and your partner haven’t been together long enough to know each other inside and out, you probably want to rethink dressing up in a giant bunny suit and begging to be spanked.

Here are a few ideas for role-playing sex games for beginners:

Princess Leia and Jabba The Hut
Did you ever see the episode of “Friends” where Rachel wears the metal bikini worn by Carrie Fisher in the second movie of the original “Star Wars” trilogy in order to make Ross’ fantasies come true. There are a lot of fanboys out there that would like to play Jabba the Hut to your Princess Leia. In the movie imprisoned Leia, kept in place by a chain held by Jabba until she finally turned the tables on him. You can even use the soundtrack for inspiration.

Candy Striper and Hospital Patient
Candy stripers make hospital visits pleasant by eating with, reading to, assisting and making special, risque performances for hospital patients. We’re kidding, of course. But if you’d like to have all of your needs tending to and your temperature checked, this fantasy is the perfect one for you.

Cold War Spies
Have you been watching “Casablanca” again and dreaming of exchanging steamy kisses like star-crossed lovers Humphrey Bogart and Ingrid Bergman. Open on a bottle of wine and decide your backstory, and then dress up in your favorite forties clothes and turn back the clock.

Conventioneer and Hooker
Make plans to meet at a local dive bar as strangers. You can dress the parts. He can wear a rumpled suit and “Hello. My name is…” badge and she can dress as slutty as she dares. The sexual tension will mount as you negotiate payment for activities that will be performed later in the privacy of your own home. Or you can even go as far as to get a hotel room.

Victor/Victoria
She dresses up in his clothes – suit, tie and Fedora. He puts on her clothes --  bustier, thong panties and maybe even a garter and hose. Will you also swap sexual roles? You can decide how far to go with this game. Make sure to set boundaries about where you want to go before you get started.

Lonely Housewife and the HVAC Technician
It may be a little cliché, but that’s only because this one works like a charm. There’s nothing worse than being without power, especially when you’re all alone. You’ll feel the electricity being turned on by the sexy repairman who stops by to fix everything that needs to be fixed – and then some.

Job Seeker and HR Executive
In this role you won’t get in trouble for sexual harassment, in fact it’s encouraged. One of you will have all the power, and the other will have to do what the other one says, or else risk not getting the job. And let’s face it, there are no bad jobs!

Handsome Hitchhiker and Lonesome Trucker
You can decide who gets to play which role – whether you want to be plucked from the streets or be the one behind the wheel and in control. No matter what, we know for sure that this fantasy will probably end up with some action in the backseat.

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