Did You Know Arousal Can Be Awakened?

Yes, Arousal Can Be Awakened

The anticipation of sex or the feeling of sexual arousal you get from this anticipation can be nurtured and awakened, even from a long slumber. There are steps you can take to bring back the passion and desire for sex, and the desire for your partner, to levels greater than before. 

Let’s examine the common psychological causes of low libido. Lack of sexual desire can be rooted in self-consciousness about our body, performance anxiety, lack of sleep, stress from work or financial challenges, obsessing over creating the perfect environment for sex or the perfect fantasy for you or your partner.  Each of these conditions can interfere with sexual arousal, squelching our lust and robbing us of the heightened sexual arousal you get from mere anticipation.  Sexual trauma or getting past the fear of rejection can also be obstacles to overcome. If you are experiencing difficulty with desire, it is ok to seek professional counseling.  There are many professionals who specialize in this field.

What can you do to combat the lack of sexual arousal on a daily basis? Aside from the popular physical fix of the ‘little blue pill’ for men and perhaps the controversial new “O” Shot for women, there are a number of things you can do to stimulate your brain which is an important sexual organ. 

•  Get enough sleep.

•  Get plenty of exercise. Not only will you like yourself better and be less likely to be self-conscious about how you look, but there is evidence that any form of exercise that gets your blood pumping also increases blood flow to the genitals--this will be arousing in itself. 

•  Don’t bring tense discussions or disagreements into the bedroom. Leave those in a jar by the door. You can pick them up later. 

• You must be able to set time aside to fantasize. This is difficult for some people but with practice, it works.  Your fantasies can be very vanilla or very exotic. They are yours and you can choose to share them or keep them for yourself. As long as they are arousing to you, they are good for this exercise.

•  You must be able to communicate your wants, needs, and desires.

•  As someone in a relationship, you must be able to listen to your partner’s wants, needs, and desires.  You don’t have to fulfill all of them, but you do need to listen.

Be a good listener.  It is tempting to say…“Yeah, me too” or to chime in with some way to “fix” the situation.  Don’t! Just listen. Try a hug and say, ‘I am sorry you are going through this’. You’d be surprised how this affection will translate into sexual desire later.

Be Engaged.  Be actively interested in your partner by making time together to do arousing activities--By arousing, I mean fun, joyful, activities that awaken your senses -- a wide variety of choices abound.  Whether you are walking arm-in-arm through the forest, running on a beach, playing golf, cooking a spicy meal together that you have never tried before or watching a movie while cuddling on the couch, be in the moment and take in all the sights, scents, and sounds around you.

Stay Connected.  A phone call at lunch just to say, ‘I miss you.’; A sexy text message can prime you both for a steamy evening; A touch on the arm while laughing at jokes or even hand-holding while walking the dog, shows that you still care. The power of touch cannot be underestimated. The temperature in your relationship should increase exponentially and carry you through to an evening of bliss.  If you still find yourself with a lack of desire, try initiating sex yourself, even if you are not usually the initiator. Use it or lose it is true for sexual desire. You need to stoke the flames to keep that fire burning.

Still feeling lackluster?  Try massage first.  Use sensual touch rather than sexual touch.  You may find that putting in the time can yield sexy results.  Be sure to check in with your partner to be sure they are feeling the same way before switching to sexual touch.  Don’t have an agenda, just enjoy the massage.

Using the power of sensual touch can whet sexual appetites if you are open to it.  We suggest trying Inttimo Massage oil. Unleash your sensual power through the ancient healing art of Aromatherapy. Inttimo by Wet's silky blend of seven vitamin-enriched natural oils glide on easily. Whether massaged into the skin, sprinkled into the bath water, or used to pamper every inch of each other’s body... Inttimo Aromatherapy Oil will balance mind, body, and spirit.

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More Hot Tips:
1. Greet Your Partner with a Kiss.
Hug and smooch immediately upon entering the door. This is something couples who have been together for a long time sometimes forget.  Getting that hug at the end of the day makes your partner feel wanted and adored which helps relieve stress from a long day.  It also releases oxytocin in the brain which makes us feel bonded.

2. Read Sexy Novels Aloud Together.
Suggested reading: Nancy Friday’s “My Secret Garden” and “Forbidden Flowers”. Read aloud to each other in segments, then, talk about what you find arousing in what was just read. Reading together and discussing how you feel helps explore desire and develops understanding how to feel good about what you want and you’ll both find it stimulating.

3. Surprise Your Partner and Show Your Gratitude.
Try giving a new bottle of flavored lube with a love note, that says... “Remember to save room for dessert.”  Wet Flavored Gel Lubricants are pure fun and taste like real fruit. Pour them on for a tasty treat!  Feels Delicious!®  Now kosher!

by Lori S. Choi, Blogger and Advice Columnist

Although Valentine's Day Is Not For Everyone, Wet Personal Lubricants...

...would like to wish you all a Happy Valentine's Day.  It can be rough if you are single, but then, so can be many of the other holidays too. You need to treat yourself to something special today, and it doesn't have to be pounds of chocolate.

Several friends have asked what to give for Valentine's Day. Here's a suggested Valentine's night plan: First, run a hot bath to relieve your partner's stress from a long day at work dealing with the clowns. Then, give the best massage -- this is something, deep down, we all know our partner's can appreciate, and a happy ending doesn't hurt either.  Trust us, you will be closer for it.

Whether you share the love with someone special, or just love yourself, either way...make you or someone you love happy today.  Hugs to all.  And remember to Get Wet.

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February 14th Is Not Just Valentine’s Day, It’s Also National Condom Day!

Why is it important to have a National Condom Day you ask?  Unfortunately, most people don’t realize that HIV infections are still on the rise and this is in part because most infected people don’t even know they are infected.  Don’t be fooled into having unprotected sex just because your potential partner, especially a new partner, says they were recently tested and are “clean”.  They may truly believe they are telling the truth about having been cleared, when they may not even be aware that they are not. In fact, many who get tested for STD’s wrongly assume they are being tested for HIV when in reality, this is not necessarily true.  Your doctor or clinic will only test you for HIV if you specifically ask for that test, so even though they got an "All Clear" result from a recent visit, it may be only for the list of STDs the doctor tested for.  So, bottom line, if you are having sex, we always recommend having safe sex.  

And we also suggest using a latex-friendly lubricant, whether having anal sex or not, it is a good idea when using a condom.  Studies have found there is less breakage of condoms when a lubricant is used.  No matter what your age, a lubricant will make your experience more enjoyable.  We want you to try it and let us know if you agree.  Dr. Laura Streicher agrees--which is why she helped us get the word out during her appearance on a Windy City Live in Chicago last June and helped us in the  distribution of 50,000 safe sex kits there. Watch the video of Dr. Streicher's appearance on Windy City Live to hear what she says about choosing a silicone or water-based lubricant and much more during her Q and A from the viewers, watch the hilarity…

And remember ladies, if you are old enough to be having sex, then don’t be shy…carry your own condoms.  Don’t rely on him to bring a condom to the party.  And of course, get tested!

Endometriosis: Sometimes the Cure Is Worse Than The Problem

Endometriosis is commonly thought of as a condition associated with mid-life women, but in truth, it spares no age group. Any menstruating woman can have endometriosis, whether they are a teen or heading towards their last tampons.  It is estimated that approximately 7 to 10 percent of premenopausal women have endometriosis.

Endometriosis is a condition in which the glandular tissue that normally lines the uterine cavity appears other places, such as the lining of the pelvis, fallopian tubes, ovaries, bowel, bladder, and even unusual places like the lung. Each month during menstruation, this tissue responds to hormonal changes, just like the tissue that lines the uterine cavity. Since it is not where it’s supposed to be, various problems can ensue, such as scar tissue, inflammation, ovarian cysts, painful intercourse, infertility, and excruciatingly painful periods that get worse with time. The degree of pain is not necessarily related to the visible severity of endometriosis. Women appear to have minimal endometriosis sometimes suffer the most.

Treatment Options for Endometriosis

Not every woman requires treatment, but if someone has progressively painful periods, painful sex or other symptoms associated with endometriosis, there are a number of options:

Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drugs (NSAIDs), hormonal contraceptives, or progestin IUD’s such as Mirena or Skyla give adequate relief to many women. In some cases surgery is necessary to remove scar tissue, painful ovarian cysts or deep pelvic implants.  Some women with severe endometriosis require temporary total suppression of their hormones either in lieu of surgery, pre or post surgery.  This is done using an injectable gonadotropin-releasing hormones (GnRH) analogue to temporarily shut off estrogen production and suppress menses, causing endometrial implants, inflammation, and cysts to become inactive and regress.--The good news is that there is nothing better (short of a hysterectomy) to relieve symptoms from endometriosis. The bad news--because with this treatment GnRH shuts off estrogen, many women experience the same symptoms as a women in menopause including hot flashes, mood swings, and vaginal dryness. So be prepared.

Talk to your doctor about using an estrogen or progestin supplements to relieve symptoms. Know that this is a temporary situation, which will dramatically help in the long run. And don’t even think about having intercourse without using a really slippery silicone lube. My favorite product is Wet Platinum Premium Silicone Lubricant. Not only is it super slippery and long lasting, but also you don’t have to go to an erotica shop to buy it. It’s right in your drugstore, next to the hand held fan you should pick up to help with the hot flashes. Or if you rather not buy it in person, it is now available online and is shipped with discreet packaging.  Go to BuyWet.com to order Wet Brand products.

by Lori S. Choi, Blogger and Advice Columnist for Wet

Sex After Hysterectomy -- Make It Slippery!

Over 500,000 women in the United States undergo hysterectomy each year.  One third of women will lose their uterus by age 60. Virtually every one of those women expresses concerns, to her doctor, to her partner, or herself about how hysterectomy will affect her sexual function, desire, and desirability. Unfortunately, studies have shown that only half of gynecologists initiate a discussion of sex and few patients (about 13 percent) are willing to bring it up themselves. That means a lot of women who worry about their postoperative sexuality do just that, worry.

Recent studies show that in the absence of ovary removal that initiates menopause, there are no significant adverse effects of hysterectomy on sexual function. A 1999 study published in The New England Journal of Medicine tracked over one thousand women during the two years after their surgeries and, unlike many earlier studies, evaluated sexual function both before and after hysterectomy. The results of the study were reassuring and validated what most gynecologists (but not most pre-op patients) knew all along. Seventy-seven percent of the women in the postoperative group were sexually active one year after surgery, in contrast to only seventy-one percent of the group the year before. This finding is not surprising, given that the study also demonstrated that the number of women who experienced pain during sex decreased from 19 percent to 4 percent. The bottom line is that for most women, frequency of sexual activity consistently increased and sexual pleasure increased.

So once you have had your final post hysterectomy check-up, and your doctor has given you the go-ahead to resume sexual activity, here’s how to make your first post hysterectomy experience one that was worth waiting 6 weeks for:

In spite of your doctor’s reassurances that everything will be fine, the biggest hurdle to overcome is fear. Many women are understandably nervous about having intercourse, thinking that it might create a problem or that they will experience pain. A nice warm bath and maybe a glass of Champagne will not only relax you, but also put you in the right frame of mind.

Pick a position that will allow you to be in control of how quickly things progress. Spooning on your side with your partner in back of you not only will be the most comfortable, but will protect a belly incision (if you have one).

In spite of your doctor’s OK, being somewhat apprehensive often results in a total lack of lubrication. In addition, if you went into menopause as a result of your hysterectomy, your vagina and vulva may be dry. So be prepared.

The right lubricant is essential. Silicone lubes are far more slippery than water based lubes and last longer. So, before you even contemplate intercourse, make sure to take a generous amount of Wet Platinum Premium Silicone Lubricant, put it all over your fingers and apply it to the outside of your vagina.

Don’t forget to also put some Wet Platinum over your partner’s penis. Since most men are a little leery about post hysterectomy sex (studies show many guys aren’t even sure what was actually removed!), applying lube to his penis will not only make things more slippery, but also distract him from any concerns he may have. 

And go for it. You will be relieved to find that sex if anything, is better than it was before.



Posted by: Lori S. Choi, Blogger 

Make Time To Relax & Refresh This Summer!

It¹s summertime and the living is not always so easy. Your social calendar is full of weddings you absolutely must attend. You're trying to squeeze an extra hour of exercise and outdoor activities into each day while it's still light out until late. And your work load hasn't lightened up. In fact you're working extra to make up for time you took off over the summer holidays and to cover your co-workers' vacation schedules. If you don't slow down, summer is going to be over before you get a chance to enjoy it. Make a plan to spend the last month of summer putting the focus on relaxation. Establish a healthy routine that brings you peace and puts you on the road to bliss. We've got ideas to make all of your daily tasks more enjoyable. And then you'll be able to find the time for the things you really want to do…like have a lot of sex!

Ah, the perfect way to relax in the summer is to go to the spa. Take a friend and relax with a massage or a facial and just let your mind be blank for an entire day while you’re pampered by the professionals. Or if you stay at home for a do-it-yourself spa day, make sure you designate a quiet area in the house where you won’t be disturbed or distracted.

Leave the kids behind for a trip to the pool, because it’s not just any old hot summer day outing. Go to the pool with the intention of relaxing and unwinding. Bring a towel that’s fresh and fluffy out of the dryer. Lay it out on a pool chair and bask in the glorious sunshine. Close your eyes and let yourself fall asleep if you feel like it. Or nap in the shade if that’s what turns you on.

It's steamy hot outside, so why not make it just as hot inside when you relax at home with a steamy DVD. Find a sexy movie that turns you both on and a cool space to relax. As you watch, feed each other popsicles or chilled white wine. Kissing and nuzzling will soon lead to body massages. The next thing you know, you'll be teaching the people in the film you're watching a new move or two. 

You don't have to wait until you are in bed to unleash your sexual beast. Let your sexuality shine when you tell your lover that you're going to run errands…but you're not wearing any panties underneath your miniskirt. Or send some sexy texts to your significant other while you are away from each other with all the dirty details of what you plan to do to him when you're together again. 

After a night of sexual escapades make plans to have breakfast Al Fresco. You're already feeling relaxed after an evening of amorous activity, so put on a sexy robe and serve pancakes and orange juice outside on the patio. That maple syrup doesn't have to be limited for use on the pancake. There are plenty of other places you might want to try drizzling it. Then have him lick it off.



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