Monday, January 26, 2015

7 Tantric Secrets to Heat Things Up

Everyone knows that the holidays were a stressful time of year. Now that they’re gone, let’s re-focus by channeling all that stress into positive energy. Below are 7 tantric secrets to heat things up and give a truly lasting impression for your partner, here’s how:

1. Breathe! Most women lose their orgasm because they forget to exhale. Remember the “OoooHHHs”, “AHHHs” and OMGs!

2. Be open to new ideas, loosen up and relax. Pick a new position to try with your lover and let your imagination run wild. Try a Nuru massage. It’s an ancient Japanese form of body on body passion that’s sure to loosen you up. Wet’s Nuru Massage Gel Kit comes complete with massage gel, a protective sheet and an instructional DVD.

3. Surrender to your body’s emotions and feelings: Try a steamy shower or aromatic bath together and watch the sparks fly. Massage each other with Wet® Platinum® Silicone-Based Lubricant™ -- It works in the water, it’s guaranteed never to get sticky and it never dries so it leaves your skin feeling soft and moisturized. Caution: Very Slippery!

4. Connect with your partner: Try a blindfold and just feel each other; you’ll be more in tune with touch and profoundly deepen your connection.

5. Work out your sexual muscles: Doing so will help you gain control, make sex more exciting and give you greater control over your orgasms. Yoga and Pilates for your pelvic floor will bring the “umph” back into your life.

6. Hydrate and energize by integrating the kitchen/pantry: Find foods and liquids in the kitchen to put a glow back into sex. Fresh fruit like berries, kiwi, bananas, and mangoes are just a start or, try a Wet® Flavored® Gel Lubricant™ like watermelon, kiwi strawberry and wild blueberry, they are sugar-free, colorless, non-staining, kosher and latex friendly.

7. Quit the doldrums of sex and make the event as special as can be. Choose a day of the week or month that you can turn your attention to your partners every need. This will be the sacred moment that can intensify your orgasm. And, don’t forget to heat things up with Wet® Warming® Gel Lubricant™—especially when it’s snowing outside.

New Year’s Health Resolution --Start SEXercising!

Was your New Year’s resolution to start exercising? Instead, start SEXercising! Sex burns up about five calories per minute and helps tighten your pelvic floor, improve bladder control and intensify the big ‘O’. Sex is a great workout following child birth or during peri-menopause to tighten those pelvic floor muscles. Remember, you may be feeling dry ‘down there’, so keep WET® Platinum® Premium Concentrated Lubricant™ Serum on hand to use just before sex to ease penetration and provide maximum pleasure. First, try using this silky smooth silicone lube as an all over massage lotion to jump start the New Year. Because it’s silicone, it won’t break down in water so the shower or bath is also a great place to get the party started. Caution: Very slippery!

Breast Cancer: My story

Sometimes I can’t believe I ever had breast cancer. That’s what I want to tell all those sisters that heard the same words as I did, “its cancer/it’s malignant!” Because I feel absolutely GREAT today, I made it through that dark tunnel to a light on the other side I never dreamt possible. So, hang in there breast cancer survivors—life gets better and better –just be strong and take it one step at a time.

I had been going to a very well respected and recommended breast surgeon diligently every 6 months for years. It was strange that I felt a small lump under my arm and close to my right breast and scheduled a special visit for the Dr. to examine it. She assured me not to worry that she’s seen this type of cyst throughout her entire career and it was absolutely benign. She kept telling me it was nothing--for four years—and I listened, until it got so big that I couldn’t shave under my arm without nicking the lump and bleeding.

So, on January 5, 2010 I had elective surgery to remove the lump. Then I received that dreaded call…the one from the Dr. saying, “this is the worst mistake, I’ve ever made. The lump was malignant and we need to go back in and remove the lymph nodes to ensure it hasn’t spread.” The next week, I was under the knife once again and found myself thrown into a new world I had no experience with at all. The dreaded word I had feared all my life—with every routine mammogram, ultrasound and mammogram. CANCER!

I am a “baby boomer workaholic”. I run my own public relations agency in Houston, and I wasn’t prepared for the physical and emotional wallop that came following my breast cancer diagnosis. After undergoing a lumpectomy, lymph node removal surgery and six weeks of radiation, I was exhausted. But the tipping point came after I started a selective estrogen receptor modulator (SERM) treatment-Tamoxifen, which caused my estrogen levels to decrease. I was robbed of all of my estrogen. I had this horrible depression and normally I’m the happiest person in the world.

I immediately experienced a depression I had never known—stopped eating and lost a tremendous amount of weight. At 4’10” and 94lbs my entire life –I didn’t have much to lose. But my weight steadily declined along with my strength and that was tough. It was even tougher because my life needed to remain ‘business as usual’-- I didn’t want my clients or employees to know I was undergoing treatment –I didn’t want them to know I had cancer-- as I was certain they wouldn’t understand and I believed they would think I couldn’t get the job done. So, I continued working and traveling at the same pace.

Passing out at a client appointment and a day in the ER at M.D. Anderson was absolutely the tipping point. It served as my wake-up call. Changes needed to be made. And needed to be made fast. I was dying. Literally. My weight was down to 78 lbs and I had no strength to move. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a ghost—a ghost that was so boney and dried out-- I was embarrassed. Immediate action needed to be taken.

In addition to stopping the SERM treatment (with my doctor’s approval), I knew the best way to get out of the funk was to stay focused on the future, my wonderful children, my career and to improve my diet. I worked my way through it and just started eating well. Food was important—I ate a lot to get my strength back up. I had juice daily and filled up on fresh fruits and vegetables. Today, 3 years later I am finally back to myself-- I’m healthy, feel great and I no longer suffer from depression. I have time to relax. Once or twice a year I go to a yoga retreat, sit quietly and contemplate life. The diagnosis has made me think maybe there is something else I need to do in life.

I am now 55 years old and my journey thank goodness has a wonderful ending—or beginning I should say-- as I met my husband in the hospital and he asked me to marry him during treatment –UNBELIEVABLE!

Suzy’s top tips for refueling your tank:

  • Chug your greens and fruits. I bought a Vita-Mix and make vitalizing juice concoctions with organic kale, tomatoes, cucumbers and celery, strawberries, banana, apple, flax and chia seeds. “I pretty much through everything into it and get stronger the more I drink.”

  • Cut out white foods. “I didn’t have the energy to think. I had brain fog because I was exhausted.” My remedy: Eat lean chicken and fish, sweet potatoes, legumes, vegetables and fruit.

  • Guzzle H20. Cancer treatments, such as radiation, can leave you dehydrated. I carry a bottle of water with me at all times to help me stay refreshed.

  • Try Replens Moisturizer. The over-the-counter, non-hormonal solution to one of the most common and painful side effects of cancer treatment --vaginal dryness and atrophy. Surgery, chemotherapy, radiation and drugs like Tamoxifen, Raloxifene, and Aromatase inhibitors, cause dryness all over—the face, eyes, body and vagina. Replens is available at every drug store and is the only alternative to hormone therapy for us cancer survivors.

  • Aquaphor is terrific to heal sores from radiation, dry lips, etc.

  • Use a good silicone Lubricant to ease sex—try Wet® Platinum® just before sex because Cancer, surgery and treatments can affect sexuality, causing side effects like difficulty with arousal, loss of desire and inability to achieve orgasm. Pain sex can also be an issue due to dryness. But, know that help can be as close as the neighborhood pharmacy or online shopping cart.

    M.D. Anderson reports, “Women can use a water-based or silicone-based lubricant during sex or use a vaginal moisturizer to counter dryness or tightness in the vagina caused by cancer treatment. If the lubricants and moisturizers don’t help, another option is low-dose vaginal estrogen. For women who have had radiation therapy to the pelvic region, a vaginal dilator can reduce vaginal scarring or shrinking.”

  • Think of Soul Source dilators as vaginal physical therapy help manage some of the side effects of chemotherapy by gently stretching the vaginal tissue, gradually making it more elastic and flexible over time. Remember, if you are using a silicone dilator, you want to use Wet’s water-based lube called, Wet® Original® Gel Lubricant, It’s also paraben-free, and kosher!

  • Learn balance: take walks, baths, try yoga or meditation

    Learn about supplements and helpful meds to get you back on track. Vitamin –D, Curamin (BCM-95), fish oil. There’s nothing wrong with asking your doctor about taking an anti-depressant to repair those wires that fell out of place during the trauma. Effexor helps with hot flashes too brought on my cancer treatment and early menopause. Personally, I was unable to take Effexor as it caused extreme nausea—so work with your doctor to find the one that’s best for you. Lexapro worked wonders for me and there is absolutely no shame in seeking Rx help.

    Laugh a lot. I’m talkin’, Belly laugh! Have fun and surround yourself with positive energy. Lose the negative forces .

  • Hang in there. Take every day as it comes and try to focus on the wonderful blessings in life—our family, friends and work—don’t let the brain jabber be all about dying. Remember it’s all about living and loving—because we are still here!

By Suzy Ginsburg